Is this manipulation

[FunnyZebra]

I’m sitting here fucking contemplating life right now .

so husband has been talking for ages and ages about how he’d want to watch me have sex with someone . It took me AGES to come round to the idea and i half did and he went online searching and made up a few profiles for me looking for men etc. he knew I wasn’t keen on the idea but I agreed cos he was into it , we even watch that type of porn 🤷🏻‍♀️ like everything was to do with that pretending I was having sex with someone else etc. Like he would send me paragraphs on what he wanted me to do to someone. we had a bit of a bicker tonight about it and I said I really don’t want to sleep with anyone. Apperently it’s all been a test (it hasn’t) and he done it and suggested it to see if I would actually do it and cos I said I would in the end that means I’m a cheat .. what the actual hell ? It’s cos I said I didn’t want to do it isn’t it , his ego is crushed so now he’s turning it into me saying I’m a slag etc.

Apperently hes gonna tell everyone how much of a slag I am but it was his idea he was the one who made up the profiles and who was writing in paragraphs what he wanted me to do 😭 why is he doing this , i didn’t want to fucking do it and now he’s making o out I’m a cheat and I feel disgusting 😭😭😭😭

[RogueFemale]

Yes, he's turning it around now because you said you didn't actually want to do it.

But the worst part of this story is how he's threatening to "tell everyone how much of a slag I am".

Is there anything you like or love about this man? In your shoes, I'd be running for the hills.

[VeryUnlikely]

I hope you don't have children.

[loropianalover]

He’s embarrassed because you no longer want to do it, he’s perceived this as you slighting/rejecting him so he’s now turned it back on you to try save face.

I guarantee you there is nothing to like about this man. Leave him.

[CurlsnSunshinetime4tea]

this is emotional abuse.
the whole thing is twisted. just end the relationship there's no fixing something this screwed up.

[homezookeeper]

He's been outed. Get away as fast as you can.

[FunnyZebra]

I’m in too much of a state to reply individually but yes we have kids together. I know he’s wanted to do it cos he’s been so happy talking about it now I’ve literally said it’s a no he’s flipped. He doesn’t trust me and im a cheating slag and now i have to watch what he does because of it . Honestly right now I can’t cope I’m not sure why he’s doing this, I’ve just lost a family member too I don’t need this in my life

[Watchkeys]

It doesn't matter if it's 'manipulation' or not. That's like sitting on your sofa whilst your house burns down around you, and being curious to know if the curtains have caught fire yet.

Don't ask questions: run. He has no respect for you and is willing to try to make you feel like shit if you upset him. He's abusive.

[JLT24]

Are you seriously married to this man? Get away from him. Anyone who threatens to discuss your sex life with people you know and call you horrendous names and will turn on you in a flash - horrible vile abusive person - no just no.