Husband doesn't seem to care it's my birthday

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I might be being petty but I'm just so sad.

I'm 30 weeks pregnant, my birthday is tomorrow. I don't work every other Wednesday and as a result I'm not in work tomorrow. My husband works from home every day.

Originally I asked if he could take it off as I have our daughter that day so we could celebrate together. He said he couldn't get it off but we'd go for lunch. Now he said he can't go for lunch tomorrow but we'll do something Friday and he'll get a half day.

I was disappointed. But now I'm really upset. He's said he's going to play his sport tomorrow night for an hour. I feel like tomorrow will be like any other day. I also will have my daughter 20 months 8-7pm when he finishes then which is a lot now I'm quite tired in pregnancy

When I brought this up that it felt like why other day he said I'm not a teenager any more I'm 35 it's a birthday and nothing crazy and he didn't understand why I was so upset

This has just made me feel worse

I'm sat crying and I'm so fed up. My life is never about me anymore (which is fine I chose to have children) but I always thought for a couple of hours on my birthday it could still be

My friends are all at work tomorrow obviously and i live about a 3 hour drive from my family

I just feel down:

He's being unreasonable. That's unkind, I'm sorry OP. I don't know what to say that would help though, is he normally kind and thoughtful to you?

So, unlike some people on MN (!) you actually asked for what you wanted, which is great. No mind reading expected here!

He said yes to having the day off, then changed his mind. Then he was going to have lunch with you but now can't even manage that!

And now he is going to be busy in the evening too!

He is offering you Friday but you wanted to feel special on your actual birthday and to come first. I fear his thoughtfulness is lacking somewhat.

Is he usually more understanding? I hope so.

Just before he stops work tell him you're going out. Go to the cinema or for something to eat. Call a friend.
Happy Birthday for tomorrow. Take control of the situation and make sure you do something you want to do rather than wait for this idiot.

What a cheek! Tell him that he can't do his sport tomorrow evening as you have booked yourself a birthday treat and need him to mind the baby. You go and book yourself for a massage or evening spa.

Totally agree with pps. Tell him he's baby sitting and take yourself out for a nice treat...mani, pedi, evening spa or whatever you fancy. Hopefully that will teach him not to be so selfish.

Happy Birthday! : ) enjoy the day and be grateful.

Sorry he is being like this. I think men can be unsentimental about birthdays.

My ExH certainly was. Once booked car in for an MOT on my birthday so we couldn't go out for lunch (live in a remote areas).

My fiance by contrast gets how important to me it is and makes it a priority.

I really hope your DH has a re-set.

Happy birthday lovely fellow virgo xxx

Grateful for what?

He's said he's going to play his sport tomorrow night for an hour.

No. He doesn't get to just decide you're the default parent to facilitate his life. On your birthday, why can't you go out, or have some time? He's a teenager if he thinks mummy should make sure he can do sports FFS.

You can't make him care, but you can insist on equal time for what you want. Tell him you're going out, even if it's to sit in the pub with a book.

Grateful for what there is of good in your life

Her birthday was in April! Why revive this?

Dick comment and why did you resurrect this from April?

Why did you wake the thread up to be silly @Katskat