Hi there,
been with my partner for 4 years with a 1 year old little boy. My partner works extremely long hours up at 4am home at 8:30/9 every night. It’s had a toll on our relationship, sex life, connection everything. He is dedicated to work which I admire however it’s hard especially with his lack of emotion and desire to want to get close.
I would love to have emotional conversations and want to be able to talk about things. However he is so shut off and emotionless it’s impossible. I tried speaking to him about my not so good relationship with my mum, which since having my son has really affected me more than ever and he knows this. He basically replied saying if you’re looking for emotion you’re not going to get it from me. This hurt and made my assumptions a reality that he is incapable of having that type of conversation. A lot of our relationship is good, we get on we’ll most of the time and do truly love each other, but I’m just struggling to wonder how and why I should put up with little to no emotion with the person who I’m supposed to spend the rest of my life with. Every time I bring this up to him it’s the same answers of I know I need to do better but seems to fall in the same trap literally a day later. He’s a generally quite a quiet and reserved person but has never been this severe. I feel like I don’t know anything about him and when I do try to ask it seems as though I’m asking too much/being nosey. Sorry if I’m rambling on it’s just a lot and in need of some advice or acknowledgment I guess x
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Ellbella · 16/04/2024 18:33
Bodyshame1980 · 16/04/2024 18:35
Isn’t he just exhausted OP? I mean imagine getting up at 4am and getting home in the evening. I couldn’t do that!
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