Ok so I’ve just broken up with someone of 10 years. It’s been a long time coming but I made the decision when I started having feelings for someone who had pursued me at work for 2 months prior to the breakup.
this guy at work has messaged and call pretty much daily. Telling me how much he liked me and wanted to spend more time with me etc. We have been out before I split but nothing happened. Since then I have now slept with him. When lying there after I said I didn’t want to be with him just have fun and didn’t say anymore. I think this is because I’m scared of getting into anything too quickly. He asked me if i was seeing anyone else, if i was going to get back with my ex and if i minded he’d slept with someone a few weeks before. He told me he had a lovely time quite a few times that day but then the texts started getting less and last week at work other than talking to me at work and he was normal here. I did ask if he just wanted to be friends but he said nothing has changed. He didn’t text me all week other than when I asked if he was feeling better he said he’d just been feeling low and I left it then. I thought well he’s obviously got what he wanted and that’s that.
then comes into work this week apologises for not texting me says, he’s felt low, don’t know how to process his feelings etc and doesn’t want to hound me because he’s knows I’m going through stuff too. Came to see me twice. Then has said today, don’t be sad today as he knows I’ve been feeling down.
thing is I do really like him but don’t want to rush into anything and think fun/casual probably isn’t what I should be doing.
do I tell him I like him or just leave it?
surely if he only wanted sex he wouldn’t act this way. I don’t know where I stand but it feels awkward just bringing it up.