I don't know how to move forward with my OH or even if I can and just maybe looking for some advice, I am feeling really down so please be kind.
Just for background I have been with my OH for 5 years, living together for 18 months in his house. I sold my house at the beginning of the year and the plan was I would buy a share of his house.
Lately however, we have not been getting on particularly well, we just seem to spend half of our time not speaking for some petty reason or another, I just usually leave him until he is ready to speak to me and out of his mood and then we just start talking again and nothing gets discussed about the argument. If I try to bring anything up it just causes another arguments so I now just tend not to say anything because I just don't want to argue.
He is one of those people who can be quite nasty in an argument just to win the argument, he will usually apologise for this later on, last week he told me he was sick of it and its just a toxic relationship, of course it is when neither of us communicate and try to resolve issues, what does he expect!
The one thing that he keeps doing in an argument particularly when he has had a drink that I am struggling to move past is tell me to get out of his house and to go find somewhere else to live and it just really really upsets me and I think a lot of resentment has crept in over this. He does usually apologise about this the next day and will say you know what I'm like of course I don't want you to go. I have the money sitting in my bank from the sale of my house and I just don't want to move forward with it as I feel like I need to keep it for my own security. But the issue is he is seeing this as me not committing which I think he is resentful about and so we are in a bitter vicious circle of resentment and not talking to each other about anything.
We are in a sort of limbo at the moment where we are talking but not but I have said we need to talk about stuff but I think we need to do this in a few days when we are both in a better frame of mind.
Can anyone offer any advice of what to say or do or how to articulate how it hurts me when he tells me to get out? I'm tired of all the arguing and I just want to move forward in a positive way.