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Domestic Violence

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ForRoseBird · 15/04/2024 01:33

I am petrified! 5years with my husband and last night he strangled and suffocated me and put a knife to my face ! Ge also repeatedly punched me so many times . He has threatened me that if anyone gets involved he will get the authorities to take my baby away from me and say I’m an unfit mother as I have a disability and terminal illness . I can’t say anything as I don’t want to lose my baby To the authorities but I think one of these days he might kill me !

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AnnieSnap · 15/04/2024 01:39

You need to go to/call the Police. They would be able to assist in getting to a Refuge where you will be supported as a vulnerable woman and a mother. Social Services will support you and find you somewhere safe to live. They won’t take your baby. Your husband has committed serious criminal offences in assaulting and threatening you. He is making idle threats in order to control you. There are many disabled parents and they don’t have their children removed. He only has power if you let him.

Andthereyougo · 15/04/2024 01:49

His threat is hollow but very, very common in abusers. He’ll say the scariest thing he can to keep you quiet.
Keep your phone with you. If you think you’re in danger tonight press 999 then press 5 if you can’t speak. Keep pressing 5 every few seconds.
If you feel safe enough to call 999 and speak say you’ve been assaulted.

Your baby won’t be taken away from you. You will get help and support.

Spoonthief · 15/04/2024 01:53

Where are you,OP ?
Are you in the UK ? Who are the “authorities”?

If you’re in the UK, contact Women's Aid
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/

Can you leave , asap ?
To family / friends ?

Get away from him and call the police.

Do you have any money of your own ?
You won’t lose your child to the “ authorities” because of his abuse.
It’s his way of controlling you. Ignore that and prioritise safety for you and your child.

I need help - information and support on domestic abuse

Not sure if you're experiencing abuse? Worried about someone else? If you or a friend need help, we are here. Learn more about our information and support.

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/

Mabelface · 15/04/2024 06:37

After this last assault, it shows that your life is at risk from him, and if you ring the police, you'll be protecting yourself and the baby. He's making empty threats to keep you in your place. He's crossed a line and you need help to get out as soon as possible. You may also need medical attention.

Women's aid will always help too. I'd say right now you're in shock. Please expect social services to be involved, but they're not there to whisk your child away, they'll help you stay safe too. However, if you don't do anything, they may consider the child is at risk of you stay.

You don't deserve any of what he's doing to you. You don't make him do it, he chooses it. You can get free.

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