Why do men in relationships follow random women on social media?

[JellyRainbows]

Found out DH has been following random attractive women on Instagram and Twitter. I’m not talking big accounts, but just attractive women posting their night out photos, there are also some posting naked selfies. Some have barely any followers, so I don’t know how he found them.

I don’t understand why, why the need to follow them? Is there a further motive to DM them? Get there attention? Surely he could just look and move on. Why follow them?

I don’t know if he has dm’d any, as he deleted both apps and accounts when I told him I had found them.

Yup really just sleazy, it’s not even about disrespect it’s more the ick of thats who he is, sleazy. I’d hate to think the only thing stopping Dh from gawping at women on social media was that it may piss me off.

Only fans - I knew someone who did this. The intstagram give a teaser of what is available/can be paid for.

Thank you.

There is no defending this type of behaviour. There is just no reason for it in my humble opinion. I think, as others have said, that it's only fans accounts fishing for business, or some other sleazy gawking. The mind absolutely boggles.

What happened to "forsaking all others..."?

Gross. I hate men who do this.

Drove me insane, literally, my exh would keep doing this, ended up having bad anxiety issues, because there're sleazy even worse when it's local women. So glad he's an ex, no way will I ever put up with it again.

It’s still not nice to do in private though. Why is it even necessary? And all of these ´attractive’ influencers have edited images… so they’re just wanking over fake ses.

Because its a way of being a stalker and Peeping Tom without ending up on the register. If it was 40 years ago they'd have been the Dirty Dave the weirdo who sat in the hedge with his grandads binoculars.

Yeah, thats never going to happen.

There is not a single heterosexual man on the planet who is going to spend the rest of his life only appreciating the attractiveness of his partner. Most will look at porn, some will be dopey enough to follow randoms on social media, and some will just cast an eye over women they see in the street.

And the same is true of a large proportion of women too.

I don't think there can be any moral high ground defending him because it's not whether his behaviour is right or wrong, but it's about if you are okay with it. If it gives you the "ick" and makes you feel uncomfortable, then that is a fact, that it does! Do not pretzel yourself around a man to make him feel comfortable; that is not the go-to solution, ever. Now that he knows you are not happy with it, he should stop doing it. It is not necessary to his health to do this; it is not his right; it will not impact him negatively if he stops! Before you found this out, you'd not had that chat, but if him ogling other women makes you uncomfortable and he now knows that, he should stop it! You are his wife, so making his marriage happy should be his priority, and outweigh his need to lick his laptop screen.