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Has anyone's ex been succesful in court, declining you permission to travel with your child?

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Wrapmelon · 14/04/2024 13:33

And what were his reasons?
I have the evidence to refute his accusations, it is his constant pestering and the injustice of it that really bites into me.
I just hope judges see this too.

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Risenshine00 · 16/04/2024 22:12

Hi @Wrapmelon I had this before. I'm not sure if you have an official contact order in place but we were in the midst of trying to achieve this when my ex applied for me not to take our child on holiday. At the time he was seeing dd at a contact centre and applied for me not to take her on holiday at one of our routine calls with the judge. I honestly can't remember the reason he gave the judge (he didn't have any real reason he just didn't want me to take her because he's never done it). Anyway the judge denied his request and told me to enjoy my holiday. Most courts act in the best interest of the child and in that case its enjoyable for a child to experience a holiday. I don't think your ex will succeed unless there was major serious health implications to the child or a reason for safe gaurding which I assume there isn't as you have your child. I was told though that I need to get permission every time I take dd on holiday. As he's not in regular contact I have since been on holiday and not asked for permission as dd isn't with him to be able to discuss it presently. If she was I would have to ask for permission which I know would be granted via a judge but he would make me go the whole hogg rather than just verbally agreeing for the good of her, like a normal father would.

I hope it goes all well for you.

RandomMess · 16/04/2024 22:16

Do you share care 50:50 or do you have a larger percentage? If so it sounds like you should apply for a lives with order to prevent pathetic actions like this.

Wrapmelon · 18/04/2024 20:36

@Risenshine00 thank you, my ex did the exact same thing, no real reason, but he made up that I hit him during our relationship, therefor our daughter would not be safe. But indeed she lives with me fulltime. He has had undiagnosed psychotic-like episodes which endangered our lives, for which I fled our house.
We are still in the process to get supervised visits with him at a contact center. He delays every process he can. A judge granted the permission to travel last Monday, I knew his reasons were not valid, but I still lose sleep from worrying, every time. I still need to learn to distance myself, not there yet.
How did you manage to move on from the ways of your unwilling ex?
I wish I did not ask permission to travel at all, he wouldn't have found out. Every day comes with new horror surprises from his side, it is draining me at the moment, he fights anything he possibly can. And turns everything he has done to us, around on me. If you would look up gas lighting on Wikipedia, his picture would come up.
On the other hand perhaps this was a good thing. Difficult to go through now, but like @RandomMess writes, he is digging his own grave with this attitude. In the end his hurtful actions might help me to get full parental authority. He is hurting his child as well, he doesn't/refuses to understand though.

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Wrapmelon · 19/04/2024 06:52

I meant to write psychosis-like, big difference , sorry.

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