Is your partner proud of what you do (workwise)

[Erina1]

If you are working in different fields and you are more senior generally to your DP, is your DP proud of you or would they prefer someone who earns less?

Yes
No
What’s prompted the question? How do you feel?
my partner is supportive & proud yes, we’ve been together since uni so he knew shared our respective journey. Different careers but we get each other

Yes he is, he is also telling other people what a big shot I am and how much more I am earning than him.
I am not such a big shot anyway, just in a better paying job. But he’s been very supportive.

They're such different fields, I'm not sure the concept of seniority has any real validity. I'm an academic, he's CEO. I don't think either of us is 'proud' of the other's work achievements, exactly - to me that's a bit patronising. We take one another's work seriously, and we go to a lot of trouble to be flexible for parenting purposes when needed if the other person is snowed under.

Yes. He was in awe of me. And happy I earned that much.

He would have been equally happy if I'd earned very little and not been senior.

It's me he loves and he's not very money orientated and is highly secure in who he is as a person.

Just not re my OH I was really proud - both of us left work at just over 50 yrs of age now early 60's

We are also seriously proud of all three kids two of whom earn easily top 5% of uk salary. The third earns well in excess of average salary - all have decent jobs

Yes, very proud as I retrained for a different career in my late 30s. But more super happy for me that I'm doing something I really love.

Is your pride in your children based on their earning capacity then?

She doesn't say that it is? Why is that what you immediately see?

I earn less, actually, but am pretty good at my job and he is immensely proud when I receive recognition for that.

Yes. I’m a SAHM and my DH says all the time that my job is so much more difficult than his. And how I’m doing brilliantly as our baby is happy and thriving. He is an involved father to our incredibly clingy baby when he’s at home, so he knows how hard it must be to be caring for him 24/7.

Yes, and it was one of the reasons I married him. He’s my cheerleader (and voice of sense when I get emotional about any of it). I hope he feels that I do the same (I am enormously proud of his achievements, I hope he knows that).

Because that poster has a long recent or current thread about exactly that. She appears to keep tabs on exactly what her adult children, and other family members' adult children, earn, and apparently she and her family members spend parties scoffing at people who go to university and end up earning less than her two children who earn top salaries, who apparently exist to justify her theory that no one should go to unversity because you don't learn anything, and that you will get an excellent job as a 16-year-old school leaver and 'work your way up'. From what I remember the 'failure' child is a dentist now training to be an orthodontist.

Did you not read the OP?
do you think wages like that are given to everyone?

I think your reading comprehension is very poor, and your writing is frequently incomprehensible. I used to think on your royal family threads that it was the longterm effects of forelock-tugging on the brain, but it appears to have spread to other topics.

Getting recognition is great not just for your OH but slef as well.
Keep up the good work

Currently off work sick, hopefully temporary. He is proud of the ways I keep going and improve our garden and house, things I can manage after major surgery.

He is proud of me retraining which is what i am doing, into a tough subject to get into, quite unusual at my age, and talks with pride and interest of what I did before which was political, international and quite exciting really looking back.

I'm not sure I'm the person you're really asking as I'm not senior to him (I was probably about equivalent before retraining but paid less as public sector) but it means a lot for my career and studies to be valued and taken an interest in as it is a big part of my life and self worth (I'm not driven by money but purpose and learning). I am very proud of and fascinated by what he does which is very different to my fields.

Yes very proud.
We are both from council estates/very working class backgrounds and I earn over £100k and he earns £35k.
He’s celebrated every promotion and raise as if it was his own and picked up the slack big time house/kids wise to allow me to study or prep for interviews etc.
I can’t imagine a spouse wishing you earned less 🤔
We’re not materialistic I wouldn’t say but more money is often less worries, more travelling, ability to get house the way you want and earlier retirement.
Why do you ask OP?

Yes, very.

Hi everyone,

Thanks for your replies. I do read a lot of negative threads on mumsnet which made me ask. I'm a high earner but most of my exes have had lower earning partners. I think they prefer being the provider in their relationship and they pay towards the rents, living expenses, pretty much all of it.

My current partner is in a totally different field but again, all exes have been ones who have relied on him financially. I'd like an equal partner, one who appreciates what I've achieved too

This is one of the weirdest threads I’ve ever read. Why are so many people on here obsessed with earning capacity, it’s like a daily mail comments section sometimes.

This (with different jobs).

I mean, I wouldn't say he is "proud of" me particularly, but he respects what I do and appreciates that it was my income that kept us afloat for the first half of our relationship.

Myself and DP work in same field but so I am more senior. He’s not only proud but also supportive. At dinner tonight he asked me if I had a busy week and when I was telling him how stressed I was about new tasks I have to take over, he assured me that I will get it done ( as I always do). I, in turn support and encourage him and do praise him as he’s good at he does and I’m proud of him!