I'm just processing. This is now my ex husband. We are separated.
Exh wasn't great. He was very self centred. I got fed up. He then accused me of either having an affair or messaging someone else as he could sense I was 'off'. I denied this as I wasn't. Later in the evening he told me it didn't matter that I had someone else as he was also messaging another woman.
I left the next day. He begged me to come home, told me he was lying about the other woman. Promised he would change his way. He cried etc.
I agreed to give it one last change. For 2 weeks he was great. Then his old ways gradually snuck back in. He was gambling more than ever too - never left us with no money but gambling was one thing he promised he would stop but he continued to do it.
Eventually he stopped speaking to me completely and when he did, it was only about himself. If i asked for help with anything, he would say he would do it then wouldn't.
Anyway my mental health just got worse and worse. Scarily bad to the point I thought my only escape was to do something very final - sorry if that is triggering for anyone.
I decided I needed help so plucked up the courage to call my ex husband while he was at work. I was crying and in a bad way. His response was I shouldn't be calling him at work and that I had annoyed him. This is the response I got from me telling him I wanted to end my life. He is self employed, I could call home whenever I needed about anything in the 6 years we had been together.
I then left him. Took my dc and moved to my mums.
Ex then said he himself was having a mental breakdown. Everything was back to being about him and I continued to support him. He desperately wanted me to come home and promised me over and over he would change.
This was now 8 weeks since he accused me of cheating. He had every chance to 'change' then but he didn't.
This begging me to come home went on for 6 weeks. I repeatedly told him I would if I could see a change in him. We still carried on seeing each other most days and doing family things - just not sleeping together.
He then started sleeping with another woman. 6 weeks after telling him I wanted to end my life. That's how he supported me. He started seeing her whilst 'fighting for our marriage'. He said she was just a friend.
Eurgh....I'm out now and in the process of divorce but I'm still hurting.
Ex didn't end up with her. I actually tried to make things work with him after this but it obviously didn't.
Yesterday I saw him with his new girlfriend. First time seeing them together - just in the supermarket. Not planned.
I've been on a bit of a downer ever since.
In therapy, done the freedom programme. I am free, i just feel very stuck in it still. Separated 7 months ago now.