I had quite long marriage, more than 15 years. Yes, my husband was not perfect (he couldn't stand up for us) but now I'm realising that probably she did the biggest part to completely destroy our relationship.
So, whole 15 years I can't remember even single birthday, holidays, etc which wouldn't be destroyed by her dramas - fake sickness, calling ambulance and terrorising every single person of the family to "help her", etc.
Long story but she left us homeless 2 days before Christmas. She cancelled our tenancy agreement and somehow landlord thought it's us. I found out I need to move in one day when landlord came to give the deposit back.
She said that she is not grandma because I have two boys and she wanted a girl.
So you can imagine what kind of person she is.
I'm divorcing with DH and honestly I really don't know what to do with her. She started to show some kind of attention for my eldest (doesn't want to see the youngest). And I'm feeling sorry for him as my both parents died long time ago, she is the only grandma. But I can't even think that she is with my boy. I'm full of anger and honestly, I wish she would die. Husband wants our sons to see her but I wish I could bloody move out from the country and never see her again...
Any advice how to deal with this situation and how to find strength to create some kind of "relationship" between us that my son could see her...