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Dating Advice

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GlindaGoodWitch · 12/04/2024 23:22

Quite new here, wanted to ask. Been OLD for a while with a few challenges. Have to really work on my blindspots constantly, so its nice to possibly get some extra help...
So chatting to someone who has given me their number. I looked him up. Sounds super interesting, as in very educated BUT it looks like he's 10 years older than on his profile. WWYD? Bin it or ask him or something else? TIA x

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Lookingforunicorns · 12/04/2024 23:31

Well he's a liar. That would be an instant no for me.

Watchkeys · 13/04/2024 00:25

I would (and did) bin anybody I had the slightest doubt about. Wait for someone who wows you at every turn. Otherwise, what's the point? Being single is better than being with Mr-Not-Bad. If not, work on how good being single feels.

2024horizons · 13/04/2024 01:09

If a guy has lied by 2-3 years I'd let that go. 10 years though, not a chance.

I would date someone who was 10 years older (my max limit) but they'd need to be honest about their age. The way I circumvent it online is to set my age limit to only maybe 2 years older than me, otherwise I get matches with way older men.

SamW98 · 13/04/2024 01:14

So many men on OLD lie about age and height like we won’t notice.

I just think they’re lying from day one, then that’s huge red flag and I’d bin him off.

ArtichokeSurprise · 13/04/2024 01:17

2024horizons · 13/04/2024 01:09

If a guy has lied by 2-3 years I'd let that go. 10 years though, not a chance.

I would date someone who was 10 years older (my max limit) but they'd need to be honest about their age. The way I circumvent it online is to set my age limit to only maybe 2 years older than me, otherwise I get matches with way older men.

So you'd be happy to date someone five years older, but you set your filters so that they can only message you if they lie about their age? Do you see the problem here?

xSideshowAuntSallyx · 13/04/2024 07:59

My ex lied about his age (didn't meet him on OLD I will add and before Social Media) and it was just the start of his lies. I wouldn't put up with it now.

You've found out before you've invested and developed feelings I'd leave it and throw this one back.

2024horizons · 13/04/2024 14:17

@ArtichokeSurprise you have to set a limit somewhere , guys who lie about their age will message regardless of what limit I put. The closer the age to me the better. I'm not responsible for the problem.

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GlindaGoodWitch · 13/04/2024 16:00

Thanks, it's a no brainer really but helps to have it all spelled out. I love being single but had a recent, short, almost relationship (until I spotted the big reds) and it made me miss the feeling of being in a relationship a bit more. But not enough to compromise, you are all right. Moving on swiftly... X

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