Anyone else find relationships so bloody complicated and think they should just live on their own?

[Rainbow03]

I don’t know how people spend decades together! It’s not just each other it’s the extended family also.

In relationships I turn into someone else, someone unsure about everything.

This is SO true. I'm with you OP. My Superking bed is mine alone, for ever, and my beautiful dog snoozes on the floor. I've never been so content 😁

After 2 marriages that were abusive and a 4 year relationship where I was very much an after thought I decided to stay single. I'm now 3 years single, sometimes I'm lonely, but God it's nice to not put up with any crap, no one taking me for granted or burping or farting and hogging the bed. I'd never live with anyone or even contemplate marriage again.

Yep me too, think it's attachment style based. I feel safest and calmest alone and generally stressed all the time if I'm living with a partner

Ha yeah and I have never been happier, honestly.

I have always fared better on my own, even when my kids were little and I became a single mum. Did so much better and the household just had much better harmony and love.

I have been single 5 years and I have never been happier and more content in myself and life in general.

I needed to read this today! I'm contemplating the end of a 2 year relationship, I'll miss all you listed but I'm just feeling too overwhelmed and stifled. I'm starting to think that it'll alway be this way, certainly for now while my kids are younger.

I tried to find someone compatible after the end of my 30 year marriage ( after a few years to recover) but it just didnt work out for me. I had 2 serious relationships but one dropped me out of the blue after 2 years and the second wouldn't commit to just me. Nowadays l'm too old to bother and have accepted that life is so much easier single.

I've just been broken up with and taken it badly. Am reading for some inspiration.

Hey, if you've not checked it out yet I'd really recommend reading "Strong female character" by Fern Brady. She's a standup comic who was diagnosed with Autism as an adult, and the book is basically amount coming to terms with that and having to deal with it as a child while not knowing why she was so different.

There's a few points where she talks about how living alone would be so much easier, and having to mask around her family. It's also just a really good, funny book in general.

Yes. And I do. And I LOVE it.

Yes and no desire to find someone. Happy to stay single.

I absolutely would not live with anybody again. Not a chance.

I have had too many bad relationships. So I decided to stay single, 17 years now. I know it’s absolutely the right decision because I’m happy. When I hear music from eras I was in relationships I find it difficult to listen to because I just get such an uncomfortable feeling. But I have two adult sons living at home, one is on the spectrum. So I don’t get lonely even though we don’t spend much time together because I know at least one of them is in the house.

I'm one of them. After several relationships I've come to the conclusion that there's only one advantage to being in one. I really can't be arsed with everything else that comes with a relationship. I'm much happier being single.

I totally get this. I find relationships claustrophobic after awhile. As an example my H always comments on my friend who lives with her partner but is out 3 nights a week on average and posts on social media- he always says- 'I wouldn't be ok with that' and I find a lot of men like this - they seem to want to dominate your diary- especially men who don't have lots of local mates or hobbies. I'm sure there are men not like this- but I've personally never met one - maybe younger men are better but I'm 62 and it seems to be common amongst older couples I know.