Being Neurodiverse and getting into abusive relationships.

[Rainbow03]

Has anyone else discovered they are Neurodiverse after an abusive relationship?

Is it quite common to end up in these kinds of relationships?

The relationship made me feel so bad about myself as I couldn’t live up to what he wanted.

I would advise you to do the freedom programme and learn about red flags to look it for in future relationships.

The relationship made me feel so bad about myself as I couldn’t live up to what he wanted.
This is really sad. Did he live up to what you wanted? Your needs are as important as his and sometimes people are incompatible as their needs are different and can’t be met in the relationship. Changing who you are for someone else was never going to work long term. You are who you are and shouldn’t have to pretend to be someone else for the sake of a relationship because relationships should make you happy and not exhausted from pretending.

@BoohooWoohoo absolutely no. He wasn’t a nice person and he had awful morals. I was just stuck in the mindset that I was wrong. He told me I wasn’t normal or behaving as wives should do and I believed it for a long time. I think that’s the problem with living so long undiagnosed. I’ve always felt wrong like something was wrong with me and everyone else was right. I know now that is because I’m ND.