Fuming, please help me

[tiredandangry]

I am FUMING, have namechanged as im also embarassed.
DH went out yesterday afternoon, it was meant to be for a few quiet drinks mid afternoon, but it got changed at the last min to start a few hours earlier and inlcude lunch. i was a bit miffed as it meant i had to cancel other plans we had. Anyway, he told me he would be back about 7pm. 7pm came and went and he did call and said he didnt know when he wold be back. Ive not heard anything since, he has not beeen home and his phone is off.
Ive just called his parents and hes not gone there, i dont have the phone number of any of his mates he went out with. Iva had about 2 hours sleep all night as ive been so worried/ angry.

He might be drunk and just crashed at a mates, but he shoud have let me know dont youthink?

or he could be with another woman ( he has had a affair in the past, and we did split up, but have been back together for a year or so.)

TBH i cant help but think the latter, i am fuming and i cant do anything about it.
What do i do.

That is awful for you. Even if he had for some reason lost the use of his arms and legs last night and could not have managed another 2 minutes to get home what is his excuse this morning if he has enough of his faculties to ring you then he should have enough for a 2 minute walk!

I agree with some of the others that if the weather is nice enough and you can manage it try and go out. Even if it is not all day it might be a distraction from sitting in the house getting more and more wound up.

He is being inconsiderate considering previous behaviour even if he has not done it again last night, surely he should appreciate that you would have every reason to fear the worst?

I hope you feel better soon xx

Sorry to hear this T+A.

Good luck with trying to sort it out.

im honestly sat here in tears.

Thats the end of our marriage now. He is obiously back to lying and cheating. Thank god i we havent managed to concieve yet.

Is there any chance you can get out, or get to a friends', to help take your mind of things or at least stop crying for a bit so you can think about what you actually want to do?

It sounds like you would be better off without this sort of behaviour from a man, you shouldn't be having a crap sunday because of someone else's selfish behaviour should you? It's not fair is it. Stuff him, he's a twunt.

I's really sorry to hear you're sat there in tears. You poor thing.

Can you ring the mate he says he is with? Perhaps if said mate has to start covering for him, mate might get pissed off and tell your DH to get home and behave himself.

What a cowardly man. So sorry to hear you are going through this. I would be in the car right now driving over to the friend's house to check if he was there.

has he still not come home???

I would go out - seriously I would. Go out and stay out and do something which makes you happy even if it's just going to moan at a friend's house.

What a rotten thing to do. I can understand you feeling so hurt and upset, you deserve much better. Stay strong go out and spend some time away from the house.

Stay strong try and go out, I would be devastated if this happened, it is worse staying at home thinking is he going to appear yet every moment, I would think. how the hell is he going to able to explain this away?

Has he put in an appearance yet?

What a coward he is! I would get the locks changed. The hell with him. What a complete dick.

DOn't waste any more time being unhappy, go and do something nice with your DC, as others have said (leave your phone behind).
Best of luck.

T&A - are you ok?

((((HUGS))))

How are you?

I would have been advising you to spend the day doing something nice with the kids, but probably what I would actually do in your situation was stake out the street he claims to be in and see if he comes out of house there....

Really really inconsiderate...hope you are OK.......

tiredand angry, are you ok?