Are isolating relationships always bad?

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How do you know they are or aren’t? I’ll always be there for her if she needs me but maybe she’s happy not seeing anyone but his friends and family. But maybe it’s what she wants.

Is this your DD? How old is she? How long have they been together?

Who? What? Can you give a bit more detail?

no another relative and she 40s been with him 4 years. Slowly stopped seeing everyone she used to. Now all
contact is one way.

How do you know it's down to her relationship, and that she's not just becoming more insular? I'm not suggesting you're wrong, but I'm asking what the signs are.

I don’t and that’s the problem, I also think covid made people more like that, I know I see less people than I used to, he’s always very nice and suggest we ‘should get together soon’. But it never seems to happen. I do know he has a temper he’s stormed out of family does before so I guess that adds to it, but I’d hate it to be one of those relationship you read about and not be there. I guess it’s a case of assume all is good unless you hear something else.

Have you tried asking her?

Mmm tough one. I know since I got with my DP a couple of years ago, I haven't seen my friends as much as I used to. A combination of no longer being single / in a miserable LTR, trying to stop being a people pleaser (arranging stuff when I didn't even feel up to it and "friends" were awkward and ungrateful!) but mostly just finally being with someone I love and am happy with.

I love spending time with my DP more than anyone. He's my best friend, the person I have the most in common with and the most fun with (I know that sounds sad!). He doesn't isolate me at all (the opposite in fact!) but I just prefer being home with him, pottering round our little cottage, walking the dogs, cooking together, going to the local pub for a drink... It just feels so easy. We've both had rough times and turbulent relationships before so think we're just happy to have a quiet and simple life!

I've also realised that a couple of my friends were very negative and drama-seeking and I actually feel so much lighter when I don't see them / speak to them often (which I know sounds awful but it's true - especially as you get older!).

If you are actually worried that something sinister is going on then you'll need to see her face to face and ask her. Even if she doesn't tell the truth then you should be able to gauge from her reaction / demeanour...