Getting my nails done.

[SarahBeez]

Boyfriend of 10 weeks asked me today if I was getting my nails done for the party next weekend. And that he would pay?
I'm not sure why he asked this?
do you think he’s just being nice or is it a controlling sign of things to come? (I like my clean short real nails!)

Unless there’s a massive drip feed coming I’d just imagine he was being nice and offering to pay for a treat for you?

Ask him? Maybe he prefer longer nails?

If you like your nails the way they are then do nothing and tell him you are fine with not getting them done

TBH I’ve never had a man care about the way my nails are, and I’ve changed styles/colours a lot over the years

Unless your nails are dirty or damaged, I find it weird that he cares

Do you get your nails done a lot? If so, then he's just offering to do something nice for you. If, on the other hand, you've never had your nails done in your life, then he's telling you that he thinks you need to start getting them done.

The first one, I'd accept graciously, the second one I'd bin him off.

This. To be honest, because you said you like your short clean nails (as I do mine) I'd be looking suspiciously at a bloke who asked me if I were 'getting my nails done'. I'm not a Barbie doll, and he doesn't get to dress me up to show off to his friends.

I forgot about option number 3, he has a fingernail kink.

Perhaps his last gf got her nails done or knows other woman that do and is generalising that all woman want them done. It could be a nice gesture to treat you or if you feel he is controlling then possibly. Just tell him you prefer them natural, he should respect the way you want to present yourself.

Maybe I'm deluded but I don't think I've ever known a man who notices, much less cares about nails.

What was you response, I think mine would have been a shocked "why?"

@Bobbotgegrinch @Hatty65
o no.
I’m not interested in getting my nails done and never have. Eek.
hope he was just being nice but it’s a weird thing to pull out on. (Just checked out his past gf on Facebook and no she doesn’t have hers done either)

@samestyle thanks. No he doesn’t come across as controlling at all but I sometimes get the feeling he is a little (just a tiny bit) possessive over me. It’s not consistent though, he has once stared down a guy in a restaurant that was looking at me 🙄

Nails done could just mean polish? Not necessarily long ones.

unless you have reason to suspect it could just be being nice? Or maybe you’re a biter and they look a bit iggy.

my dp offers for mine as he likes when I have a fun set because I like them. And he likes when I’m happy.

@beAsensible1 thanks, stupidly this never crossed my mind and is something I have done (polish), although I’m still baffled at a man who cares 😂. I wonder if that’s what he meant. I was taken a bit off guard so just went ‘oh’ then we moved on.

No I’m not a biter.

If it’s an important party or people who are important he might just want to look extra special?

mine offers for hair, nails, spin classes. Anything that he knows make me feel good or my best self. And I say yes or no depending.

Caring about you for some can include caring about how you feel about yourself. Or how you’ve expressed how you’re feeling in passing. Plus it’s an easy gift/win for them. It’s really just how people express care in different ways.

Why don't you just have a conversation about it with him and say how you feel about painting nails? You could ask for something else you do want as a treat.

If he is controlling, you'll soon find out by being used to asserting yourself calmly and confidently like this. Makes for a healthier relationship too, if he's a good one, giving him more to work with by sharing who you are

My DH pays for my nails, just gels rather than extensions. I see it as a nice thing rather than controlling.

Oh. Well yeah, if you paint your nails yourself then surely he’s just offering a professional job as a treat? He was probably thinking that if you planned to paint them yourself it would be nice to save you the trouble by offering a salon trip instead.

@WhichEllie oh my gosh!! I bet that’s it. Thank you I think you’ve hit the nail on the head. He was offering to pay so I didn’t have to🥺, and I’ve been trying to see if it was more sinister.

My immediate thought was he's going to propose, and was thinking you'd want nice nails for the "we're engaged!" photos

Maybe he asked his sister, mum or friend/colleague who said they get their nails done as a treat or pay for their girlfriends/wives etc so he thought it was nice.

I’m going to bet his last girlfriend used to get hers done and he paid for it.

Probably her hair too, so don’t be alarmed if he offers to pay for that too.