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A positive story...

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StartingOverInMy40s · 09/04/2024 15:19

I read so many threads on here where people are struggling in a relationship for lots of reasons and feel scared to start over, again for lots of very valid reasons.

I wanted to quickly share my story because I was in an unhappy relationship (no drama other than we'd grown apart). I didn't think I could afford to leave my ex and worried about being lonely as my kids were older with one in uni and one in college.

I did it.

I told my ex that I was done one day and he moved out very quickly. Turned out that he'd been expecting it because he knew I was unhappy but he thought I'd leave it until my youngest was 18 and had left college.

Fast forward two years and I have an amazing partner who I love and who loves me. I've moved into his home with him and every day I wake up and think how lucky I am to be where I am living the life I am.

I almost convinced myself that it was ok to settle but I didn't and I genuinely believe that no one should. It might not be easy but for me, it was so worth it.

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neleh87 · 09/04/2024 15:31

Well done you!

I have a similar story. I was unhappy, but for no real reason. I felt I couldn't leave because I didn't have a reason. I was making him unhappy too. I was in my early 30s and getting stressed that I wouldn't have children.

Finally we broke up and 4 years on, I don't speak to my ex anymore but last time we spoke he seemed content and like he was doing a lot with his life. I enjoyed living on my own for a while, but now I am with a lovely man, we have the type of house I always wanted, and a delightful 12 month old son.

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