About flirting

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Curious to know what you do/how you feel when a stranger openly flirts with your other half? It has rarely happened to us but it happened at the weekend. Very brief but my word she was intense! She didn't look at me at all, like I was invisible. I felt embarrassed because I spoke but she 100% blanked me and just fixed her eyes on DH.
I must have been visibly shaken because about ten minutes after, DH made some comment about 'that old lady' (the woman we had encountered). I think he was trying to make me feel better by referring to her like that as he wouldn't normally use those terms.

That incident sounds really disrespectful and sociopathic.

Some people just have no class. None whatsoever.

Your DH should have shut her down in front of her right there and then, not after she had left with "that old lady comment, yeah the old tale is that men and women alike get a huge ego lift by such behavior, but if a couple are together at a gathering, and for me personally, this would be shut down.

How does your OH feel about it?

I've had people eye up DH or flirt with him infront of me, but he's good looking and tall so I can't blame them - they don't know I'm his wife 😂 he's totally un phased by it, normally he'll just refer to me as his wife / bring me into the conversation etc and it's quite a natural way of making it clear he's married! I do the same when a man does it to me, just mention my DH or turn to him and ask him the question / comment about what the stranger said.

I'm concerned as to what she said / did that left you visibly shaken?

I probably used the wrong word with 'shaken'. Probably 'perturbed' would have been better. I've just never seen a woman act like such a femme fatale, other than in movies. It was proper intense, it wouldn't have surprised me if she had waved me off with hand while maintaining eye contact with him!

Thinking about it, what I did was probably the best thing to do and that was to not mention it to him. I need to not let it bother me. It's hard when someone actively pretends you're not there when you're standing right in front of them though.

was she drunk?

Some women genuinely believe they are irresistible to men, even men much younger than them. I work in a female dominated industry and until recently, the suggestive remarks and over the top flirting directed to the few men that work there was awful, particularly from certain women aged 50 and above, who acted as if the men should be grateful for their attention.

Yes, an ex friend of mine was like this, she just HAD to be the most desirable woman in a room, she thought that every man just wanted her and she always made a play for her friend's husbands, just to prove a point and to herself that she was irresistible. She could not stand that fact that some men preferred another woman (their wife) over her. I think she was just deeply insecure. I mean I am insecure but have never come on to any man, let alone a married one.

She was sad really, she has had hundreds of men but no lasting relationship