My parents have been divorced for about 20 years, however they live on different continents so I very rarely have to even consider juggles/politics. They've been in the same building for my graduation and wedding without drama. They were civil but didn't go out of their way to interact. Both events were pretty heavy on the people so I guess they didn't have to. However my dad is back in the country next month and it's my daughters birthday. We're having a tiny party in the garden with a handful of friends, but would be the sort of thing I'd invite my mum to ordinarily. She wouldn't always come, but sometimes she does. I have a great relationship with my dad and so do my children. He's a total legend and I love the idea of him being able to be there for a celebration as it's a rare opportunity.
So basically... I have no idea how to handle this. Do I invite them both, tell them that's the case and let them decide? Or do I see one set on one day and one on the other? Am I just setting myself up for more stress than necessary by even contemplating having them both there?
Can't quite believe I've made it to 2 decades without having this conundrum!!!
What would you do?