A Facebook like

[KeenDeer]

First time posting here. Just want to know if I am overreacting.

Me and my wife have been together for 14 years and have children. I recently noticed that my wife had liked a picture of her ex on Facebook, when he was being congratulated by family for an educational achievement. I right to be a little jealous over this and to feel a bit Insecure? It seems daft as we have been together so long and consider ourselves to be in a happy marriage. This was a few years ago, but did notice she searched for his wife and him on FB recently.

You won't be surprised to know I am a bit insecure in my personality, but it never causes an issue cos I'm mostly good at shrugging it off and just dealing with it. Any comments and tips greatly appreciated.

Way too jealous, absolutely nothing wrong with liking an achievement. And nothing wrong with you doing the same.

Maybe she knew that it was an achievement which was particularly important/ difficult for him?
But more importantly how did you notice that she was searching for him/ his wife on FB recently? And how do you know about her liking the post? I liked probably 25 posts since this morning and my DH has no idea about them and tbh he doesn’t care. I have teen with additional needs for whom I’m checking SM usage (mostly friend’s requests) and I have no idea what she’s liked unless I will do snooping on her phone.

Such a non issue. I regularly like my exes holiday pics because it's nice to see him looking happy. We even have a chat on messenger around both our birthdays where we just update each other with life news etc. It's nice and I'd have no issue if my partner did this too

Stop analysing her social media.

You're not simply noticing, you're actively going out of your way to look at what she's doing.

If you're insecure, work on yourself, don't take it out on her.

Thank you for that. Deep down I knew, but good to get someone else to think the same. Thank you.

You are all correct. Self work is definitely needed.
Thanks for the comments, much appreciated.

I am friends on fb with an ex from many years ago. I often put a like on his posts if it's something interesting or funny. He does the same on mine. We haven't actually spoken in over 30 years but we went to school together and have mutual friends from school too. My dp of ten years had female friends on his fb that he's known way longer than me and I honestly have no idea if he puts likes on their posts. It's really a complete non issue to both of us.

I'm not friends with any ex's on social media, but sometimes if one of them enters my thoughts for whatever reason, I might search him on Facebook to see what he's up to just because I'm nosey. No other reason!