This is a long one.
I've been with my partner a year, we have a baby on the way (I'm 9w).
We met at work.
Before we got close and started dating, I was friends with a few guys at work (as well as girls but obvs that isnt an issue for him), one of the guys would text me a bit and we would text sometimes (nothing romantic, always platonic). And he (my bf now) would flirt around with other women at work, give them lifts home, hang out with them outside work, discuss his personal matters, like their half naked photos on social media etc). I didn't have a problem and just thought he may be a bit of a flirt. We weren't together at this point so why would it be a problem.
Then we got serious and his jealousy became apparent, so for the sake of argument I stopped speaking to the guy outside of work and would stop being so friendly with the other guys at work as well because it would just cause him to get angry and call me nasty names/put my character down/make out I'm a sl@g). He said he didn't understand how I could give my personal phone number to this guy from work.......?
To point out, we are from different cultures and his is supposedly very strict.
To add, he also stopped giving the girls lifts and liking their semi-naked photos to "show his respect" to me....
He is a very moody man, one minute he's lovely and we are having an absolute blast in our relationship and the next he's angry, grumpy, making up stories about me in his head and believing them and accusing me of all sorts, calling me names and again, putting me down.
He also criticised me alot and tries to constantly correct me. He says it's to improve me as a person.
He could ignore me for days if he was grumpy about something, he gives the silent treatment as punishment, although he says it's because he just "wants to be quiet".
He also makes it very clear when he's angry that I'm disposable, that he could easily leave me if he wanted to. Although he says he says it in anger and doesn't mean it.....
We had a row last night because he brought up the guy from work I was friends with, who I haven't even spoke to for months and months and months since I left that job! Saying he doesn't believe we weren't flirting before we got together etc, he doesn't believe what I'm saying etc. The same row of events had over and over and over again in the past. Even tho if we were flirting (which we really weren't, this guy is absolutely not attractive to me in any single way) we weren't even in a relationship or even seeing each other at that point either!?)...
On the other hand, when he's in a happy mood I feel like nothing can ever go wrong, I feel so in love and content with life! Even though on the inside I'm worried I'll do something wrong and he will get angry or grumpy with me.
He woke up angry this morning I'm assuming after last night, he hasn't text me all day today, he's at work and I'm off on annual leave, he usually texts me all day when he can. And my anxiety is through the roof, I'm so worried about what he will be like when he gets home this evening.
Basically, has anyone ever been in something similar like this before!? I think I know the answer to all of the questions in my head, but sometimes it's easier to hear these things from strangers.
Thank you for reading (if you made it this far!)