LOSING MY MIND

[LondonerWith2]

OK
Long story short, me and father of my 2 kids (10 years relationship) split in Jan
We've been arguing alot etc but recently been getting on well
He came over tonight to see kids and stayed as is working nearby...
We ended up having sex
Prior to us sleeping together I asked has he been seeing anyone else just so I know for my own safety and esteem lol

He assured me no, he's spoken to a couple of people but platonically not looking for anything (as the split is quite new)
My 5 year old came out and said to me that he had been texting someone earlier in the day to which he completely denied
When he fell asleep my curiosity got the best of me and I checked his phone

To find he's been speaking to PLENTY of girls in sexual ways and has eluded to sleeping with one of them a few times.. I'm not sure weather he has or not but has sexual videos of her and has said he doesn't JUST want sex from her

I'm going to sleep with my 5 year old as I physically feel sick

"We were on a BREAK RACHEL"😂

Moral of the story is don't have sex with your ex.

Your 5 year old did not tell you he was "texting someone". Don't involve your children as a means to justify your snooping.

I'm not saying don't trust your gut, just be honest about it, and why you're doing it.

Either way, it sounds like this relationship is not good for you and you're better off out of it.

Not sure what the question is. Of course he's been chasing women since you split up. And of course he's up for casual sex with you.

He's an arsehole.
And don't fall for that 'we were on a break' crap.

Any person with any bit of sense or decency who has kids with another person wouldn't go near anyone else so soon after a 'break up' in case they got back together and had done something they couldn't take back.

Stop dragging your 5 year old into this mess

Just tell him to leave and only see him at the front door when he collects or returns the children. Go grey rock and pull back totally and only contact if about the children. No point even going over it all with him as he did what he has done and just move on from it all and learn from what happened.
Take some time to be single and independent and don't rush into anything as usually if vulnerable will meet a worse man. Things will get better and get in touch with old friends and do things you enjoy for yourself. He's a shit so just move on.

Do you think he will tell any of his new fuck buddies he shagged you? Or that he stayed over?

Lies, lies, lies all round to everyone.

He says what he thinks you, and others, need to hear to get a shag.

And it sounds like it's working.

What do you need? My advice, make sure you have what you need first, which I assume is more than empty words.

Did you have a question?
Get STD tested.

Please don't use your child like that OP, it's not cool. If you're at the point of using your bairn as a reason to snoop then this breakup needs to stay broken up. Of course he was going to say he wasn't speaking to anyone if there was a chance of getting laid.

No more. Just find a way to co-parent.