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Stressed out

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BePearlQuoter · 07/04/2024 22:55

Thought I’d vent on here as have nowhere or anybody really too vent to like that . I have been non stop crying today . Me and my 2 daughters went down to my mums today as my partner was sleeping as he does every time he has his days off of work so I thought I’d have a day out today as I’m always indoors . My mum was meant to go on a boat trip today but couldn’t make it so gave me tickets for me and my eldest daughter too go . We went and he starts messaging me saying where is my daughter (youngest daughter is his) , she was at my mums house . So I said I’ve taken my eldest to a boat trip today and he accuses me of going on a date with somebody and starts to be horrible and gets even more horrible because I wouldn’t send him money to get a cab home as he doesn’t have any money . He says to me how I am horrible myself as he gives me money when I need it but I won’t give him money . Am I wrong for that ? Because I don’t feel like I should give him money if he’s behaving in such a way

I’m currently pregnant right now I believe maybe about 9 weeks pregnant I’m really unsure but I’ve been wanting an abortion . Because of that is because my home isn’t big enough , it’s stressful enough with my 2 girls as they are only 4 and 2 years old , I’m not financially stable enough as it is now let alone bringing another baby I just don’t think it’s fair . He’s agreed with me before about the abortion but after today he’s been saying to me the baby isn’t his and to get rid of it etc etc . What do you think about having an abortion because of this ? Because he starting to make me feel so guilty now for wanting to have one but I’m really not mentally stable for all of that right now

what the hell is this ?! I can’t deal anymore 😭

OP posts:
GrazingSheep · 07/04/2024 22:59

Terminate the relationship.
Then try to decide if you want to keep the baby.
He sounds horrendous.

GrazingSheep · 07/04/2024 23:04

And why would he want money for a cab when he’s at home sleeping?

BePearlQuoter · 08/04/2024 01:14

GrazingSheep · 07/04/2024 23:04

And why would he want money for a cab when he’s at home sleeping?

Oh sorry I forgot too add in this that he wanted cab money too go back to this flat he is staying at . He’s been staying there to look after his friends cats whilst he’s on holiday

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MMadness · 08/04/2024 05:17

Terminate and lose him.

He's gaslighting you. He's fkn horrid. Don't tie yourself to him with another baby.

Especially as it doesn't seem either of you can actually afford life now.

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