How to tell him I feel ready to go further?

[jess241]

I've been seeing a lovely man for almost a year (although knew him through friends for a couple of years prior to that). He's always know my last relationship was terrible, very abusive and my ex ended up being jailed for DV.
My partner (lets call him Greg, not his real name) has always been very aware of what I suffered previously and has always let me take the lead on things, so as not to scare me or startle me with anything I might be uncomfortable with.
Greg and I see each other most days and I can really see a future with him.
We've kissed, cuddled and a bit more but have never made love.. But I'm feeling ready, like ready to take the next step. Greg has never brought up the subject, but I'd like to bring it up with him. How do I go about this?

I would wait until you are having a cuddly session and acknowledge how much it has meant to you to have someone who allowed you to go at you own pace and was willing to build trust. Tell him that you think your are getting to the stage where you would like to be more intimate if that is something he would like to think about. Don't put the pressure on, let it happen naturally and see how he reacts.

I'm glad you have found someone who makes you feel this way