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Dating timelines

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Hustleonwards · 07/04/2024 17:56

I know it is a bit subjective, but after how many dates would you be looking for exclusivity. If you meet someone online- and you both have indicated that you are looking for something serious (I.e you haven’t gone on there for hookups etc)?

What is the timeframe for these kinds of things and discussions?

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Row23 · 07/04/2024 18:04

I’m not sure there is a timeline really! It depends on your individual situations, where you both live and so how much time you can spend dating / travelling to see each other, plus other commitments E.g children etc.
Like if you’ve been dating for 3 months but only actually seen each other every other weekend then perhaps you’d not be exclusive at that point as you’ve not spent a huge amount of time together. But if you saw each other most weekends and once during the week then probably 3 months is long enough to be exclusive 🤷🏻‍♀️

Aubree17 · 07/04/2024 21:47

I would say that by the time someone wants to see you for a second date they shouldn't be hedging bets with multiple dates.
I'm not sure it's down like this these days though.

Haydenn · 07/04/2024 22:14

Row23 · 07/04/2024 18:04

I’m not sure there is a timeline really! It depends on your individual situations, where you both live and so how much time you can spend dating / travelling to see each other, plus other commitments E.g children etc.
Like if you’ve been dating for 3 months but only actually seen each other every other weekend then perhaps you’d not be exclusive at that point as you’ve not spent a huge amount of time together. But if you saw each other most weekends and once during the week then probably 3 months is long enough to be exclusive 🤷🏻‍♀️

Most weekends and during the week for 3 months? So twenty-odd dates before exclusivity? Really?

samestyle · 07/04/2024 22:40

I think when you plan to stay over, 3/4 dates.

SamW98 · 07/04/2024 22:43

For me it’s when you decide to have sex. I don’t multi date anyway but I wouldn’t sleep with someone who was still actively dating or looking to date others.

dullestofall · 07/04/2024 22:48

Every couple is different. And if your situation was heading towards it, you would know even if a word had not been uttered about it and would not be worried about it or asking the internet

Tiredgrumpyhormones · 07/04/2024 22:56

Depends on the guy. With my DP we were exclusive from the start. Something clicked and I didn’t want to date anyone. We had the I am not dating anyone else conversation after date 4. 2 months in and we were in a relationship with labels.

Row23 · 08/04/2024 06:50

Haydenn · 07/04/2024 22:14

Most weekends and during the week for 3 months? So twenty-odd dates before exclusivity? Really?

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Obviously not 20 something dates. I’ll write it clearer: 3 months might not be long enough if you rarely see each other but if you’re seeing each other very often then you’d expect to be exclusive by then.

SpringleDingle · 08/04/2024 07:19

I expect to see my dates every other weekend to start with and I expect the “ what is this?” Chat to go along with sex at around 4 - 6 dates in. I don’t want to bang if he’s banging others.

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