feel like a sister/housemate to my husband rather than a wife

[longpathtohappiness]

Posted in here so many times so please don't flame me for sounding like a broken record.

Mid 50s, been with husband since early 20s. Married 28 years. We have 3 DC together, all still at home and in 20s

For the last year, I've felt we have been drifting further and further apart. His get up and got up and gone. He has no hobbies or interests other than watching TV or dozing. Zero intimacy, and I have started to carve out a life of my own and become independent

Tried talking, crying, texting. He doesn't think we have a problem and thinks it is normal. I have waves of indifference towards him, some days not sure if I even love him anymore. I feel so disconnected from him, tried to explain how I'm feeling but nothing

Can't u book a break away, just u and ur husband? It will be a couple together instead of mom and dad. Opportunity to laugh? It's horrible being in a relationship with zero intimacy I know. I would not pitch it as a romantic weekend as it puts too much pressure on u both. Good luck OP

Has this developed due to other factors? Job worries, financial worries etc?

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@longpathtohappiness
I'm in the same boat.
I love him, I do, but our communication is getting less and less. Intimacy zero.
We feel far apart, and I seem to be constantly feeling irritated with him which perpetuates the problem.
We've been through a lot. He's currently in remission from cancer but it's been a long journey and it's affected him badly- and me.
About to go on holiday and hoping we can re-connect.
I miss him. 😢