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Has anyone here been dumped by a friend?

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MrsAveragePants · 05/04/2024 22:47

And how do I deal with it 😥

We had an argument (the first in 6 years of friendship)and she responded to me texting her apologising saying she’s too tired to deal with drama. The argument is the first we’ve ever had (and pretty mild really, mainly a misunderstanding). Except for this, our friendship has been drama free. I just feel really sad, we have been close friends for 6 years and her response was so cold. It’s been weeks of no contact now, I really miss her and feel so down about it

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 07/04/2024 18:42

A friend of mine cut me off because she felt I wasn't sympathetic enough when she had depression.

We went on a pretty expensive trip to New York together (her idea) and she was just...not in a good place. I didn't really know what to do. The next year, after not hearing from her for a while, I realised she had deleted me from Facebook. So I sent her a message asking why and she basically said she only wanted people who were able to give her what she needed. I felt very hurt by it but respected her decision and we haven't spoken since.

I think she went to a therapist who advised her to have a fairly ruthless friend cull.

dizzydizzydizzy · 07/04/2024 19:04

Yeah best friend of about 20 years dumped me recently. I have since come to realise she is a narcissist. I have never been allowed to have a different opinion to her and if so ever dared stare it, I got yelled at. I kind of jiust put up with it because she was otherwise so much fun.

I had often suspected she lied to me about various things to make sure she got her way. I don't want to say exactly what happened but I caught her out hook line and sinker. Instead of apologising for making up a story and causing me a lot of upset because I initially thought it might be true, she accused me of being a bad friend for not recognizing she was trying to be a good friend by protecting me .

RandomUser82 · 07/04/2024 19:27

23 years we were friends. Our kids grew up together, she was at my youngests birth. Saw each other daily on school run and took kids out weekly together. Then I told her I'd broken up with my long term partner and it went downhill from there. Didn't approve that I found another guy "quickly" (8 months) and stopped texting and deleted me off FB. Was a bit gutted, but her loss.

MsRosley · 07/04/2024 19:34

HappyFifties · 07/04/2024 18:33

My best friend just disappeared. Refused to answer my calls, stopped replying to messages.

A few years later, I posted on Mumsnet about it and a lot of people said maybe he had had a mental health problem and still wanted to speak to me.

A week or so later I got chucked off a train and had a v long walk home so I thought I would try and call for the first time in about 4 years. They answered and I was so pleased - I started talking and said wow so amazing to hear your voice - he was clearly driving and didn't check the number. I heard him audibly sigh (as in fgs) and hang up the call.

At least it made me get over it! We went on holiday together for years - I was close to his kids and mine him. It was surprisingly painful.

I would give her a bit more space. These things take time @MrsAveragePants but I truly feel your pain

God, what a horrible, horrible man. You really are well rid of him.

HappyFifties · 07/04/2024 19:56

Thank you @MsRosley

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