Why would a man cheat on every partner he has ever had with the same women?
I have just found out a friend of mine has been secretly having an on/off again relationship with someone we know for the past 15 years.
He is a friend of the family to the women in question. They started seeing each other secretly 15 years ago. They kept it quiet then as they didn't want to upset a particular member of this women's family that he is very close to, they weren't sure how it would gone down with them even though they were both single at the time.
He then left her to reconcile with the mother of his child and she moved on.
He then split with the mother of child again and started a new relationship. The women was then also in a new relationship, but they started seeing each other again.....and basically this cycle has continued through all of my friends relationships. he starts fresh with someone and then starts up with her again. They haven't been single at the same time since they started.
They are both now married. My friend has had more children and he had started up with her again.....and she has now ended it...again.
He says it's self sabotage....and he doesnt want to leave his children..and therefore wife....and that hes ok most of the time..but he thinks of her and if he sees her he wants her and wants to be around her/ enjoys her company etc.... and doesn't want to hurt anybody.
But 15 years?!?!
I hate knowing this, I'm shocked. I wish I didn't know.
What am I supposed to advise here?!