Husband doesnt seem to have a problem with me being unwell

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I’ve got a chesty cold, I’m coughing a lot and I can’t help it. My chest is very painful and it’s kept my up during the night. We have small children and he’s on annual leave this week, not for any reason he just fancied some time off. But he’s being really miserable that I’m unwell. I work from home and he gives me a horrible look whenever I cough, I have had to finish work early as I couldn’t talk in meetings due to my cough and felt so bad. He wants me to go pick our children up from nursery now as he’s “tired”! I took them this morning and I shouldn’t have but he wouldn’t get up.
he won’t make me a drink, and asked me to make him lunch so I did (I shouldn’t have)
he thinks because he made dinner last night and tidied that I should be really thankful, and I am. But it would just be nice if I’m the one who was looked after for once.
Hes really being funny and I can’t understand why. He won’t tell me. It’s because he wants to be lazy I think as it’s his day off.
is he being out of order here as he’s making me feel worse

Title meant to say husband seems to have a problem with me being unwell. Sorry.

I'm so sorry you married a complete bastard. 🙁

Honestly stop doing things for him. Tell him you are unwell and off to bed. I'd also be asking why the snide looks tbh. He sounds horrible. I hope you are feeling better soon

Bit of an idle sod isn't he. Tell him to pull his weight; having days off doesn't give him carte blanche to do absolutely nothing.

He's on annual leave and he doesn't want to spend time with his kids so he expects you whilst ill, still trying to WFH to do the nursery run, make lunch for him and dinner for all?

What a fucking hero!

Have you said that to him?

I would call him and entitled prick and go on "wife strike" whatever that means for you.

But hey it worked he had a lovely day off and you did everything.

He took this week off to relax and do nothing. He's pissed off it hasn't worked out that way. So far, so good. Being disappointed, being sad, all fine.

Being a shit to you is dreadful. Not doing the bare minimum parenting is also shit. He's blaming you and that means he's a dick. You must have been aware of his dickishness I assume.

I’m so sorry you should not have to put up with this.

Another feckless husband thread. Do people not vet their potential future spouses before committing?

Sorry you are feeling so unwell, that is rubbish. Many of us on here can relate to how exhausting it is to keep on struggling through with work and young children when you are ill.
Your husband is behaving like an absolute twat. Don't do anything else for him over the weekend, no laundry, no cooking, no cups of tea. He doesn't deserve it. He needs to grow up or sod off.
I find it deeply disappointing how many women are stuck with useless feckless partners.

You’ll probably all laugh at this but now he asked me to go to the shop for him to get snacks. I said no. Actually can’t believe it. Glad it’s not me wondering if this is just a bit shit.

It's more than a bit shit though isn't it? You shouldn't have lifted a finger bar working. Why did you make his lunch out of interest? Have you asked him why he thought it appropriate to send you out for his snacks?
You need to start thinking seriously about what kind of relationship you want to model to your children. Raising them in a house with this kind of man just isn't it.
Unless this is unusual behaviour and he's normally topnotch, if that's the case then sit down and ask him why he's behaving like this.

Yeah we all pick the most obviously shittest laziest abusive men we meet and marry them

I couldn't possibly be that these man don't show their true colours until you are in their bullshit up to your neck could it because how would we then blame women for everything ?

Always have an escape route.

And make sure they know it.

First reply nailed it

So did he muster up the hero to go himself and ask you if you wanted anything or is he still sulking on the sofa his house elf said no?

Or worse of all worlds he went and just got himself snacks?