Dating question for men?

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I realise there won't be many men on here but if there are any can I ask a dating question? How many of you would be happy to date a woman that was only available during school hours 10-2 once or twice a week? No days or weekends off so purely lunch dates to begin with. This would be for 6 months or till the person was potentially ready for you to come to their house /
meet their children? Would any men be prepared to date someone in that situation with such limited "free time" or would it just depend on how much you like the person?

I'm not a man

But got nosey and feel slightly qualified to answer

I'm in the same situation- solo not single parent

And I have had many many times of being told well what tf are you doing on a dating app if you don't have any time for it

Many dumb offers to bring my kid along on a date... yeah, no

But got used to going look it's fine if this isn't compatible but lemme just explain I haven't given up hope but here's my situation... and found several lovely men who had days off in the week or kids themselves and appreciated it fully

I also have a chronic health condition... and still find it

It's just having to look for longer and harder and finding those happy to do video chats and calls before finding time to actually go on a date to know it's worth going on it in the limited time I have

So many women have told me it's perfectly possible to date in this situation (I'm not convinced)not from their lived experience though so I wondered how many men would actually be up for this situation or have ever dated a woman in this situation. It's very easy to suggest it as a possibility but I imagine most (all) men would run for hills!

Not a man either, sorry!!

But it seems like it would be quite fun meeting for lunch or coffee, going for a walk, visiting something interesting.

It depends on how comfortable the man would be waiting for something physical aside from cuddles. Some aren't very patient.

Surely any decent prospect ought to be at work during those hours? OK, I'm sure there are gainfully employed guys that work shifts and whatnot, but it's a limited pool.

I'd be worried the only type of guy you'll find is someone cheating his lunch-break.

I could see it being fine for a first date, but I think no evenings or weekends is a hard ask.

Yes I was told shift workers

I think it would be easy to casually date in those parameters. It's when you wanted it to progress further and be 'a couple' that it might cause problems. Going away together, being the plus one at events, that sort of thing.

So long as you're open and upfront about it I don't see a problem but you'd have to be prepared for it to not work out because of it. Similar to long distance - in the beginning it's great and everyone's keen and eager but then it can become a bit of a chore and starts to feel restrictive.

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Why has my reply gone into MASSIVE text?

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Sorry, but seeing this (I'm a woman, btw) on a man's dating page would make me think they were cheating and just wanted sex while their OH was out of the house.
So not insurmountable, but I'd be prepared to get some 'offers' if you put this on a dating site, OP.

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Tbf I get quantity

Dont put it in my profile but do put that im not the right person for just sex etc

And little quality

But currently dating someone who works shifts and has days off ... so far it's going fine and it'll be a good few months of this before kid introduced

It just takes a lot longer to find the connection it'll work for that's a decent dude

I just start off telling them how difficult I am logistically and let them scarper until someone fits

Sure people can assume whatever, and me too - but there's always folk who don't conform to assumptions like lunch date cheaters (too)

Not a man but I have found lunch time dates, not everyone works 9-5, there will be shift workers or wfh that can be flexible.
That might work well for them if they have kids at the weekend.
Not found anyone suitable but you can still date with little time.

There's a bloke near me who I see pop up on various dating apps. He specified in his profile that he is looking for daytime dates only as he is a widower so has to work around childcare. No idea how successful he is on the apps. He also states he is looking for no strings attached fun. Maybe try being explicit about your availability on your profile.

Not looking for fun only! Looking for a serious relationship

Man here! Bit late to the party but saw this topic in the side bar...

Basically being "fed scraps" until you're ready to come to my house after six months. No chance! I could have met someone with a compatible lifestyle and be well into staying at each others' places on a weekend and had at least one week and countless long weekends away together in that time.

Maybe that's just me though. I'm very independent and would rather be on my own than be in some situation where I'm at the bottom of a long list of someone's priorities.

If you use this line you might get some offers 😁

It’s a tough ask. I reckon you’ll get a lot of married men after a bit of afternoon delight on their lunch hour. Beyond that, it’s hard to call. There’s no harm in trying.

Any reason you're not working yourself during school hours? Not a man but if a male solo parent wasn't working those hours I'd wonder why not and would they be after me to provide? As a shift worker myself, it would be possible to meet someone then, but do you identify and have things in common with a person who leads a different lifestyle without working?
I was a solo parent, I did date, I worked shifts, it worked as had family to babysit, if I hadn't, I'd of expected to pay a babysitter instead so a normal dating experience would be achievable. Perhaps that is a viable option? You seem to be hoping to avoid using a babysitter, but is that realistic?

I wouldn't sorry.

Mainly because it just wouldn't work for my timescales. I get an hour for lunch, non negotiable. So I'd be limited to weekends only.

But also because I always preferred an evening out for a date. Dinner, drinks, a gig or a show. After the first few dates at least, I'd kind of expect to be spending the rest of the day together once we'd met. It would be too weird to just do lunch and thats it.

And given the situation would be for at least a year. (I wouldn't want to meet someones kids for at least that long.). It's just a long time to not have any kind of normal relationship.

There is of course also the small fact that I'm not single! Although I do think that this kind of setup would mostly appeal to men who aren't single. Much easier to hide an affair if you're meeting in the middle of the day. No chance of it getting too serious with that kind of time constraints, a perfect excuse for why you've not met their friends, family (Oh, they're in work!)

Guy here.
I had something similar recently. I have days free so not a big deal for me.
Not dated for a while so the steady approach suited me.