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What to do?

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Missy1313 · 04/04/2024 17:57

So iv been with my partner for 10 years but we don't live together but spend weekends together !! For the past 6 months iv started to kind off dread spending time with him I might love him but he's hurt me alot n yeah I shouldn't off let it happen but I live alone with my daughter (16) and my dog and I like being alone!! He's unpredictable mood wise and I have anxiety ( probably his cause ) I just want to chill in life I'm stuck

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Missy1313 · 04/04/2024 21:22

Thank you all for the kind words iv anxiety and I'm struggling Right now as he's made me feel bad n he says iv made him feel like crap !! But that's what he does I was only being honest

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livelovelough24 · 04/04/2024 21:24

Dear OP, the reason why you are breaking up is not important. You can leave your partner with no reason at all. You are not happy/satisfied with the relationship and that is it. He does not have to agree with you either, and most of the time the other person does not and that is ok. You owe yourself to live the best life you can and if the relationship does not serve your needs, you should leave. Do not let him guilt you into staying.

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Missy1313 · 04/04/2024 21:35

I think it's best we're over I don't want this but you can't blame me for your parenting n how u get on with people at work n stuff that's totally on you mark I knew I would get this reaction n that's ok we are just different with how we are n that's nobody's fault!! We see things differently and again that's ok!! If u feel bad for stuff only u can change it n I hope u do off course I do ..same as I can't help my anxiety it's just how we are .I'm sorry how I'm but I'm a positive person n see good n I do love u n always will but we don't work I'm sorry..........my last message ti him

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TheShellBeach · 04/04/2024 21:37

Missy1313 · 04/04/2024 21:22

Thank you all for the kind words iv anxiety and I'm struggling Right now as he's made me feel bad n he says iv made him feel like crap !! But that's what he does I was only being honest

It doesn't matter.
Stick to your guns.
You can end any relationship for any reason at all.

Who cares what he says? You've told him it's over.

TheShellBeach · 04/04/2024 21:38

Missy1313 · 04/04/2024 21:35

I think it's best we're over I don't want this but you can't blame me for your parenting n how u get on with people at work n stuff that's totally on you mark I knew I would get this reaction n that's ok we are just different with how we are n that's nobody's fault!! We see things differently and again that's ok!! If u feel bad for stuff only u can change it n I hope u do off course I do ..same as I can't help my anxiety it's just how we are .I'm sorry how I'm but I'm a positive person n see good n I do love u n always will but we don't work I'm sorry..........my last message ti him

You've put his name in there.

Anyway. Just block him now.

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Missy1313 · 04/04/2024 21:39

Thousands off marks

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Missy1313 · 04/04/2024 21:40

Thanks though

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Missy1313 · 04/04/2024 23:40

We're knocking heads so I'm done . He's used my anxiety to make me guilty!! Why can't I get trust n loyalty...in fact I can just me n my dog

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Ohffsbarbara · 04/04/2024 23:44

Of course you’re not stuck - there is literally nothing tying you to him!

Why would you stay with him when you’re so unhappy?

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Missy1313 · 04/04/2024 23:48

Thank u

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Catoo · 05/04/2024 00:27

If you haven’t already just block him now.
He cant make you anxious if you can’t read what he’s sending.

They tend to find a way to send abusive messages so make sure you block on phone, all socials and email. You can unblock at a much later date if you like, but for now take the heat out.

Don’t be tempted to send any more ‘explanations’ for why you broke it off. People mull those over for weeks or months or years and will just argue about what you said. It gets you nowhere.

Plan something nice for the weekend now you are free.

commonsense12 · 05/04/2024 01:03

No rules in this life. If you don't want to see him anymore, then don't! If you want to end it over text, then do!

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