yesterday I had a row with DH about another girls name in his mobile, it turned out that it was a girl from a selfharm group he is involved in. Now I know he was selfharming but thought he was coping ok. He started crying and said that it was all triggered three years ago, when a male workmate got obsessed with him, the boy would sent notes, and leave male gay mags in his bag. I knew about this at the time. But Dh told me something that I can't handle, this boy pinned him to the floor and touched him up, DH just froze and didn't know what to do. It happened one night when he was working nigths and was alone in the building. He is blaming himself and said he should have fought him off. The day after it happpened he sant DH a text saying that last night was excellent and to bring something so they could go further!! I remember Dh getting that text and me freaking out, but how could I not see that DH was scared? What can I do?