How is this fair ?

[FrancisSeaton]

Sexless marriage to a very lazy husband. Have mentioned how unhappy I am several times. Get told oh I will sort things out etc etc. Obviously this hasn't happened. So I get to be the bad guy by either leaving and splitting my family up or by seeking this side of my marriage elsewhere whilst again he does f uck all.
Sorry but it does annoy me how the women have to deal with all the shit

💐Sorry nothing to offer but to say you’re not
alone. ‘My in a similar situation and very frustrated and unhappy

How long have you been together?

So men never have to deal with a sexless marriage as well?

Yes they do however it's very rare for them to leave the relationship until they've already cheated

Well most men don’t cheat (yes I know more do than women), so they will usually leave, or just stay there living in a sexless marriage for the sake of their kids (if any)

That's bullshit
They will usually have a bit on the side who they will either string along and have wifey looking after them at home or they will get caught and then leave to be with the other woman . I've not known a single man leave an unhappy marriage to be alone

Been together 19 years and married 17. He’s 52 and I’m 46. Not sure if the age has anything to do with it. And again it’s that DH does not seem bothered by it

Agree. Very rare for men to leave and be alone. They’re likely to find another woman then leave.

I would let yourself feel/own your feelings fully, his behaviour is unacceptable, it doesn't matter if you'll be the bad person.

Still the same scenario tho.

This is not a gender based issue tbh.

@Icandoallthings very similar situation here
Feel free to pm me for solidarity/support. It really helps knowing you're not alone

Has he consistently shown a lack of motivation, and have you both always struggled with sexual compatibility?

By the way, it's okay for him to not desire sex, just as it's okay for you.

If you're unhappy and feel unable to cope with a sexless relationship, consider leaving. Your children will benefit from seeing their parents prioritize their own happiness and mental well-being. Leaving teaches them that it's okay to end relationships that aren't fulfilling. They learn they don't have to endure unhappiness.

You have options. Leaving is one. Cheating on him isn't the solution, nor is staying in unhappiness.

Additionally, not all men fit the generalizations you've made. Not all men behave as described.