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Domestic Abuse and Police

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coeur86 · 03/04/2024 13:57

Hello,
I was attacked by my partner on 4th June 2023 and I called the police. This was not the first incident where I was attacked - emotional then physical abuse. He was arrested and released next day, bail for 3 months. The police officer changed towards the end of last year from a man to a woman who seemed very supportive. In December, I was told they were organising for my ex to come in for an interview following submission of all of my evidence. I then emailed again in March 2024 asking for an update - she told me he was coming in later that week for an interview and that I would be provided with an update. I have not heard anything since. I feel like I am the one constantly emailing and asking for an update. I feel completely neglected and left in the dark and emailed her last night expressing this.
Is this standard? I get that the police force is understaffed and overwhelmed but I am a genuine victim of a horrific crime, struggling every day and I feel like this cloud is hanging over me and that I cannot move forward with my life. Do cases like this take a long time?
Thank you

OP posts:
Mamma1982 · 05/04/2024 23:17

I'm so sorry you feel neglected and you keep having to make contact to ask for updates.

The police are understaffed and overworked. There just aren't enough hours in the day. I'm sure the officer working on your case is doing their best and working on your case regularly despite not updating you enough.

Keep making contact with them to ask for updates. It's not right you have to chase them and the victim code says you need to be updated at the times agreed by you and the officer in the case when they first took your report. I know officers are drowning in work, which is not your problem. Keep asking for updates, hopefully the matter will soon go to court and you can put all this behind you.

Hereyoume · 05/04/2024 23:40

Depends on the severity of the incident, the workload of the.CPS if it gets dealt with by them, and what, if any, evidence there is and what has been disclosed and when.

Unfortunately these types of cases can take a long time to.even get to charge, let alone near a court.

Call the OIC again and explain your worries.

B1rd · 06/04/2024 02:03

Sadly, you are one of many women of horrific domestic abuse crimes.
My Sister last week admitted to me that she is struggling to deal with the amount of domestic abuse cases that are coming through and may go off sick with stress,
I guess that you are currently 'safe'. But there are so many women who aren't and they having to deal with them as a priority.

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