Finally left domestic abuse

[Madison44]

I finally left last Tuesday. We were together 24 years and I loved him to the point I feel like I’ve lost part of myself.
He was so loving, charming and generous.
‘Then he would be highly critical, belittling me and there would be arguments.
I am now in a shelter hoping to get my life back together hoping I’ve not made the wrong decision

You haven't made the wrong decision. Stick with it.

Congrats. Its a new chapter for you. Well done. Don't go back you've come further than you think

If you need a shelter space to get away from a relationship you have ALWAYS made he right decision to leave. A reasonable fella would let you leave if you wanted to.
Best of luck to you, stick with it. Talk to other women who have escaped abuse. I have never met any woman who regretted it when out of the other side.

Just remember why you are in the shelter, you didn't ask to be abused did you?
You've done the most difficult thing in leaving, just look forward, don't look back.

You are brave & you are brilliant.
Well done, hang on in there, say yes to support.
I wish you all the best.

Thanks for all the lovely messages I feel so lonely

Well done. What you've done takes massive guts - to leave everything you know and step into the unknown. This is the start of a new, happier chapter, trust me. I wish you all the luck in the world - you've got this!

It's such early days, I went to a refuge a couple of years ago when I left my husband. Initially I was terrified, I had my 2 year old daughter with me.

I made friends with volunteers who came in and with a couple of other women who were in the same boat as me and I actually look back at that time with positive memories, It was a stepping stone to a much much better life.

Everything feels very uncertain and scary but it's a process and hopefully the staff there can help you and advise you.

I wish you all the best

You should be so very proud of yourself for making a change. It's new, unfamiliar and you're longing for the predictable that you had - but the new life over the horizon is going to be a much better one than you could ever have imagined.

Hold in there, brighter days are ahead of you.

You have done amazing

That was me 6 years ago

Life is just beyond Amazing now !! Xxxxx

Well done.
I ran away from my abusive marriage of over 20years last autumn.
Even now I get odd pangs to go back, but it does get easier. I have spent a lot of the last few months quite mentally ill, but now I feel like I am getting my life back. Or more to the point find it on the first place. Being allowed to try new foods and new hobbies.
Keep strong

It takes huge courage to do this. Give yourself a hug, and congratulate yourself on the next part of your life. (I left mine after 24 years).

I think I’ve now finally found the ‘old’ me and I love her to bits! You’ll do the same too 💐💐💐

Just know you are so so brave, there are so many people out there stuck and feeling they have no way out. You are the bravest of humans to walk away and seek a safe place ❤️ do you have people at the shelter to make friends with? This is the start of your new life and new friends and I’m sure they will be friends for life ❤️

Its going to be scary but it takes so much bravery to leave. You should be so proud of yourself! I hope you find your happiness xx