This is my first post on here, and I've been a member for years.
I am keeping myself anonymous due to personal reasons and not wanting my abuser seeing this.
I am safe, I am in a new relationship and getting married in September.
The case going on at the moment is a REAL sticky one.
My daughter has been on and off seeing her bio father for nearly a year. She turns two very soon.
I got out of the DV relationship when my daughter was only 1 month old. He never helped me, always on his phone and constantly checking where I was and what I was doing. I managed to get out of it, but the mental and emotional abuse still continues even to this day. I moved into a new home with my two children and started our lives.
I managed to get a undertaking out against him for what he had done to me, unfortunately my 6 year old son (at the time) witnessed everything he had done to me, and mirrored his behaviour. HE has learnt that behaviour hurt mummy and has completely stopped with the help of counselling as well.
Long story short, he has ruined my mental health, I have been diagnosed with OCD & PTSD due to this, and my medication has been upped too. Our last court hearing was two months ago. When the court first started, he was in supervised and my solicitor at the time forced me to let him go unsupervised despite his dark past and what he had said to his therapist and my evidence to that he is a danger. It got moved to unsupervised and my daughter was coming back with a full nappy, hasn't been changed, not being fed, not administering medication that she HAD to take and came back red raw on her private parts due to his lack of care. I got a new solicitor and he fought for me and my daughter and managed to get it back to supervised.
Two months pass from the last hearing and I get a phone call TODAY that contact starts next Saturday.
My daughter HATES going to this place, and I hate it too. They allowed her bio father to put my daughters nappy on backwards and not "supervise" him like they said they'd do. I have ongoing back issues and its gotten worse to the point where I'm struggling to walk even to the toilet.
Any suggestions, advice or tips would be so helpful to me.
I don't want my mental health declining again, and I don't want my children's declining too. There is so much more to this story but I'll be here forever if I explain everything.
He is a narcasist and I don't feel like to court is even listening to my side of the story and taking anything into consideration.