Tips on getting over heartbreak/a relationship ending?

[Paddington101]

Things were always amazing when we were together but we seemed to struggle to communicate when we were apart. And was issues with trust/jealousy on both sides.
Typing this I know it’s obviously for the best it has ended but it is still hard as there are a lot of feelings there.
It’s been a month now of contact and he has blocked me on absolutely everything but it seems to of got WORSE with time and not better!
We have had periods of separation before but always ended up getting together again, this time just feels different and final.
I can’t seem to stop thinking about him and it is driving me crazy! I’ve bumped into him a couple of times and we have avoided each other/not made eye contact but it is like a physical aching pain.
I’m absolutely dreading having to see him with someone else at some point and torturing myself about that.
I know I am being ridiculous and need to get a grip but how??

What are you doing to distract yourself?

Time is (unfortunately) the only healer. I know after a month that seems like a cruel thing to say, but it will slowly get easier.

Surround yourself with people if you can and try get out and about with friends or family as much as possible (although definitely let yourself have mopey days on the couch in your pjs if you feel you need them)

As hard as it feels, you are not the first person to go through a heart break. Most people you know will have gone through a heartbreak like this, and they are all doing okay now !

I only work a couple of shifts a week atm as claim carers allowance for disabled DS. He is on a school setting 3 or 4 days a week now though so I have a LOT of time to myself which isn’t a good thing.
And embarrassingly not many friends to meet up with for a coffee or whatever.
I struggle with social anxiety to and it always felt like my ex just “got me” in a way no one else did. I do miss him but then think am I actually missing HIM or the companionship and someone checking in and asking how your day has been etc.
I definitely don’t feel ready to meet anyone else but part of me is clinging onto the fact that we will reconcile but I think that he is definitely 100% done this time so I am just torturing myself.
I’m going to try and join a gym and get to some classes or look into volunteering just to keep myself busy!

Start learning something you've always wanted to learn. Online classes/courses, if you don't feel like going out. Fill that time up. Do things every day that, when you look back on them, you'll be glad you did.

This is about you looking after you. He is a side issue.

It’s so hard and feels like the end I’m going through it now and have to sell my home I’m so anxious and worried but it’s good to talk

OP the reason he has blocked you is because there is someone else already.

No decent bloke will need to block unless there is obvious toxicity.

Seeing the relationship between you may have been a bit hot and cold it will be addictive. Meaning it will feel like a withdrawal letting him go. What you need to do is love yourself more now. Go for that walk even if you really cannot be bothered, say yes to the girls meeting up or go for that event you always wanted but never did. Do something every day just for you.

The best part of this now is that you no longer need to worry about the past, you can now invite all the new things spring and summer has to offer, and just enjoy it. It is blooming difficult to split up so be nice to yourself.

It’s been less than a month and a friend showed me a facebook post from someone who had tagged him with love hearts saying she is proud of him. It’s an ex from years ago who has recently split up with her long term partner. Eughh.