DH has always said that due to the nature of his role no one from the management team at work could take holidays during Christmas (only the 25th and 26th and the odd 1 or 2 days max in between).
Our family doesn’t live in the UK and in over a decade we’ve only managed to spend Christmas with them once.
We had our first baby last year and I’ve been saying to DH that I would like to spend Christmas with the family as often as possible from now on even if that means going just for a few days.
Today I was talking about this and he says that this year he won’t be able to even take a couple of days as his colleague is going to be on holiday for an entire month! I was shocked! And DH knew this for over a month and didn’t even bother to tell me! I asked him how is that possible if he has always said that they couldn’t even take a full week off and he said that his old director used to say that and he assumed that was the rule and never questioned.
He knows how important this is to me and our parents are getting old and we don’t know how many Christmas we are going to have with the entire family. My dad and his dad particularly are not in great health atm and I just can’t stop thinking that our baby might not even have the chance to spend Christmas with all grandparents once just because DH assumed something and didn’t even bothered to ask.
I know for a lot of people it’s just another day but for me is a chance to have the family all reunited and even more important now that we have a baby.
I feel really sad and I’m worried that if something happens with our parents and we never get the chance to spend Christmas together I might resent DH for it.