Iam a man, i need some advice from the ladies here. When I met my wife she was seperated from her second husband (i thought for months, it turns out it's weeks) Sex was ok but she would say she could never let herself go and enjoy it. We got engaged after two years, then her ex turned up univited at a party and announced he was geting married. My wife went into meltdown and into a depression that lasted three months. I stuck by her despite her not wanting me around. Sex was never the same after this event. If it happened it was cold and mechanical. Nowadays, or want of a better expression, it's only an occaional handjob which I have to finish and it is again cold and I feel one out of duty more than desire. She wn't let me touch her, she says I'm either too fast, too slow, too heavy,too light or conditions aren't right. She has said several times only her ex 'Gets Her'.
I know very little bout the ex, what she told me is that not long after they met they went away for a weekend and she came back pregnant. He moved in with her but lost interest when she told him she was preganant. All he wanted was a Mother with benefits.
TBh things have become boring. She says she left him because he was boring, but she seems to do the same things over and over. She insists we go the same lace for short breaks, her favourite place, which I recently found out from her sister was where she and her ex first went. She seems to know quite a bit about his current life and often says he's not happy with 'that blonde thing he married'. I don't know how much contact they have but whenever we see him they don't make eye contact.
Things aren't easy, I need advice please.