Partner wants to book another holiday with friends

[Almostmumoftwo]

I have an almost 2 year old and am due my second baby in May. My partner has already been away twice with friends this year one to a skiing festival and another was a stag do and is now wanting to book a lads trip to Ibiza for august when our baby will be just a couple months old.

am I being unreasonable saying to him I don’t think it’s fair of him to be leaving me so soon after baby number 2 comes along, seeing as he’s already been away twice whilst I’ve been pregnant? I don’t want to be controlling but feel I’ve been very understanding with the trips he’s already had and don’t see why he needs to go away again when we will only just be adjusting to life with two. Any advice welcome.

Op perceives themselves negatively and allows others to mistreat them, becoming submissive and accepting of mistreatment and parenthood without reciprocity. (A doormat and a breeder)

I believe that individuals should only be granted time, space, affection, and possibly children if they truly deserve it and reciprocate love.

Op's intentional choices are leading to unnecessary difficulties in their own life, and will have an impact on the children's.

Despite struggling with one child, they are adding another, subjecting the children to a dynamic where their father demonstrates disrespect and lacks care or desire for them.

This behavior might have existed prior to the children or shortly after the first one, yet Op is now on their second child.

Erm no it isn't.. and you can say this about alot of places if that's the case.