Don’t know if I love him anymore

[lynsey765]

Hello

Ive been with my partner for just less than 3 years , we have a baby who has just turned 1.

things just feel a bit flat and I don’t know if i love him anymore - either I just like a better way of life as a couple - better house , more opportunities , company don’t want to go back to my old small house and bein alone

or that I do love him but just taking it all for granted. He is a good dad , and good to me . We don’t get much time together because of work.

i feel so unfulfilled with life , he hasn’t got much get up and go and I’m frustrated, feeling I’m not making the most of things . The years oass so quickly and I find things rather dull

how can I work out if I love him or what I need ? I feel so confused

Hi,

I, unfortunately, don’t think there is a one size fits all kind of answer here.

Would you enjoy life more if you were no longer married to him?

I think it’s fairly usual to feel like this with such a young baby too, it’s hard going & tests even the strongest relationships.

im sorry you’re feeling like this & hope you sort this out in your head soon!

It sounds like you have needs that are not being met
Maybe you should communicate with him about how you feel
And if he is the one for you he would try to listen to you and meet your needs

What do you want in your life that you don't have?

Start there. And build. With or without him will become clear as you get to work on shaping your life.