Husbands hobby getting too much

[Dinkiedoo]

Hubby has a hobby I am not remotely interested in. Nor will be but sometimes we go away to places he can indulge. I dont mind that bit as it gets us away.
However in the last 6 months or so weve been away once.
His days off are spent doing this hobby most of the day. He recently had 2 weeks off work and we did nothing together.
We are due to go on holiday soon and he said on one of the days he will be going to a place for this hobby. I said I wouldn't be going with him.
The only thing we do together now is watch TV at night !
He thinks more of our pets than me .
Hes snappy and picky and Im becoming the same.
I dont want to sleep with him because of his behaviour so think its a vicious circle. But Im not getting jiggy with it while hes being an arse.

What are your hobbies then?

Are some people this rude 🤷🏼‍♀️

We quite like to go and look old aeroplanes now and again and jet fighters are exciting to see.

I do think it is an unusual hobby for an adult to be so engaged in to the extent that it is threatening your marriage.

What happens if you plan things which would include him? Would he reject those plans to go spotting, or does he just go spotting because there is nothing else on the table?

There is nothing wrong with plane spotting. People have always been interested in spotting. I have zero interest in it myself, but assume it is relaxing and healthy if not taken to extremes/obsessive levels. I agree people are being very rude about spotting, no need for judgement.

OP - I think you need to set out for him what you do want to do - what else would you use the time for if you had a day with him? If he really won't set some time aside as a couple then that is a big issue, it is really irrelevant what the specific hobby is.

There is nothing wrong with having a hobby and it is good for couples to have separate interests.

There issue here is that your husband is focusing only on his hobby rather than making time for the two of you to do stuff together.

As usual the advice is always talk to him and make it clear he needs to stop devoting all his free time to his hobby. If he won't do that then you need to decide whether this is still the relationship for you.