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What to do

9 replies

Wantshappy · 30/03/2024 20:07

So iv been in a relationship for 10 years and we don't live together..we have been through a lot ( iv caught him online cheating 4 times but I forgave him ( this was 3 years ago ) but slowly iv found him annoying me through no fault of his own it's just how he is !! Shall I say I'm getting the ick !! Iv no interest in sex with him n when he touchs me it annoys me !! He used to smoke weed but iv found out he's a nicer person smoking cannabis than not !! He seems to make remarks about me he thinks is funny like I'm lazy n look old not all the time plus iv started to watch his relationships with work mates n stuff n nobody gets along with him but I can see why !! We spend the weekends together but I'm glad when he goes home as I feel I'm on edge n can't be me !! We both have our own homes but I know he wants to live together but I'm happier at home with my 17year daughter n my dog..

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SamW98 · 30/03/2024 20:11

So you don’t know what to do about a stoner who has cheated several times, you don’t want sex with, who puts you down and you don’t actually like very much? Seriously??

What exactly are the plus points of this relationship?

Wantshappy · 30/03/2024 20:12

Sums it up thanks

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Wantshappy · 30/03/2024 20:15

I must admit I like him stonned he's nicer. He's nice straight but very blunt his breathing in bed even irritates me !! The problem is iv lost so many friends since iv been with him ( n that's my fault) I'll only have my son who lives at university n my daughter n dog ..but I'm happy just that

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Pinkbonbon · 30/03/2024 20:31

Then join a few meetup groups or a walking group or some sort of local college class and make new friends.

Life's too short to waste in unhappiness.

AnneLovesGilbert · 30/03/2024 20:35

You know what to do.

BirthdayRainbow · 30/03/2024 20:36

What are you really asking as it is obvious you should end this non relationship?

jelly79 · 30/03/2024 20:42

Raise your bar OP and get your weekends back

WishesPromised · 30/03/2024 20:44

Throw him back in the bin he crawled out of.

Your energy and effort needs to go into rebuilding your life: friendships, confidence and independence.

If you miss him after a year go back to the bin you threw him in - he'll still be there!

Wantshappy · 30/03/2024 20:45

Thing is I'm happy for now I do have friends just iv neglected them. I'm home with my daughter tonight n were going to watch a film as she's a teenager n im happy as I don't get much chance so I told him my plans n he said he would rather pull his teeth out with pliers than see the good

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