Me and my partner have been together for 9 years and in that time it has always been very apparent my sister in law is a very jealous person. The day I first met her she said ‘don’t you dare have a baby before me, you’re not allowed’ I laughed at the time assuming she was joking but my partner told me later on during the drive home that she was in fact very, very serious.
We did go on to have a child before her and her reactions shocked me tbh, she was actually quite pleasant. She had her first child 3 years later. It is only since we’ve had our second (and now pregnant with our third) her jealousy seems somewhat out of control. For example before even getting pregnant with our second my partner called her one day to talk about something he had found out about their dad. He said ‘I need to tell you something’ in which she replied ‘You’re pregnant?!!’ And after he said no she responded with a very loud ‘OH THANK GOD!!!’ I heard her on loud speaker and I was so shocked.
She has also made comments about us getting engaged before. Last year my partner briefly spoke about wanting to propose in the near future and his sister told him he wasn’t allowed to until she had gotten married first.. she isn’t engaged yet either, so how long does she expect us to wait?
Anyway fast forward to this year and we are very unexpectedly pregnant with baby number 3 and this time we waited until the 12 week scan to announce it (my anxiety has been very bad during this pregnancy for some reason). At the 12 week scan we were actually 14 weeks. We had a gender scan booked a week later and thought well, we’ll find out the gender and then tell people. We have 2 boys and found out we’re expecting our first girl!!
I was over the moon and told my family immediately. My partner was actually quite nervous to tell his because of how his sister acts. So he told his mom first and she reacted very cold, made it all about his sister and how she’s not going to be happy etc and even said ‘she will be very frustrated’ he has now messaged his sister and gotten no response, no congratulations etc.
I just want to add his sister is in (what appears to be on the outside) a very happy relationship, she has a 3 year old which she conceived on the first try, oh she likes reminding us of that whenever she can as she knows our two boys took a year each time to conceive. So it’s not like she’s stuck in her life, she likes to constantly remind us how amazing her partners job is etc all the time too, so why she is so unhappy for us if her life is so amazing I’ll never know?!
I don’t know what I want from this post really, writing it out has helped. Maybe similar stories of jealous family members? I’m a very anxious and overly worried person who convinces herself she’s in the wrong and I’m sat here a lot of the time trying to figure out what it is I’ve done to upset her so badly?