Feeling trapped and controlled in my marriage!

[Clare2027]

Recently my husband got a job abroad which meant me and our little girl joining him I am excited about it and the opportunities but it comes with a price. My family. My husband doesn't like them especially my sisters broinlaw he got into a fight with them last year because they told me I should leave my husband as he was being verbally and emotionally abusive to me and my husband can't forgive them for that (he thinks regardless of how he treats me no one should interfere and my sister crossed the line when she messaged him calling him out on his behaviour to me) he said he never wants to have anything to do with them and won't come to my parents if she's there because he might tell her to f off! They're not welcome to my house here or abroad ever. He said I can see them but on my own accord. I'm so upset because they want to reconcile with him and not have us leave on bad terms but he's refusing and says I have to accept his wishes and can't force him to be civil if he doesn't want to and if that's a deal breaker then think about it. He keeps telling me to blame them for the consequences of their actions. I feel like it's his way or the highway and I have to go along and make all the sacrifices. Don't know how to make him see reason??

[Hbosh]

You are in an abusive relationship with a horrible man.
Any reason why you haven't left him already?

[SwordToFlamethrower]

This is a prison sentence, not a marriage. If you move, the abuse will get worse and you'll have no one.

Do not go! Leave him. Your sister will want to help you

[Polly271220]

You've posted before about him, why are you still there and even thinking of going abroad with him...he's a bully!

[Ohffsbarbara]

Yes - he’s the type who doesn’t like hearing the truth. They try to ruin your relationship with anyone who sees them for what they are.

Think very carefully about moving abroad with him - you’ll be completely isolated. Terrible idea IMO.

[Wooloohooloo]

Oh god please listen to your sister and BIL and leave this awful abusive man. Definitely do not move abroad with him. He's trying to cut you off completely from your support network and you'll be completely at his mercy if you go abroad.

[Wibblywobblylikejelly]

You'd be stupid to go.

It's not just about you. You don't get to be selfish here and screw up your child's youth by forcing her into an abusive situation with no out.
You can't go.
It shouldn't be up for debate.