Easter holiday unhappy relationship support thread

[Teeteringonthebrink45]

I've been lurking on these pages for a while now, reading so many posts from so many people in situations similar to mine, which in a nutshell is feeling trapped in an emotionally abusive and very unhappy relationship, trying to make life bearable for me and my 2 young children but struggling.
Weekends are the worst times and holidays are even worse. I'm sure I'm not alone in this, so thought I'd make a thread to support each other through the looooong weekend.
My story for today is the same old thing as usual - his temper just blows up at any time and by 10am on good Friday DD (8) had already been in hysterical tears from him yelling at her after she broke one of DS (5) toy, and not long later he exploded at me,
Blaming everything on me:my family/my upbringing, calling everyone fucking idiots and told us we all had to go out. So we're rattling around with a few basic chores to do and I just brought the children to Greggs for unhealthy snacks to spite him (he's a massive snob and also doesn't think children should eat between meals, but obviously he's allowed to 🙄).
So, how are you? Feel free to share your woes and hopefully we can make each other feel less alone if nothing else...

Sending you lots of love, courage and understanding, OP.
I hope you can find a way to get out of this situation, soon.

i've been there and know what is is like. You try so hard to make everything nice and it's just miserable. This time next year, you and your children will be safe and happy and moving on with your lives. Deep breath. Go to bed early with a book. MInd yourself xx

Yes similar here. Dread weekends and holidays, the long Easter weekend is the worst!
OH and I will rattle around the house together with nothing to do and nowhere to go because he is too good for anyone who wants to be his friend and has alienated most of mine. We only go and do something if I come up with it and I don't come up with anything to do any more because I'd rather be at home doing my college work than spending time with him elsewhere, while he moans about everything! Good luck to everyone in similar positions!

Teeteringonthebrink45

Why do you feel trapped?. He'd like you to think that this is so but in truth you are not as powerless as you think you are. Have you as yet sought legal advice re divorce and help from the likes of Womens Aid?.

How can you be helped into leaving your (and in turn your kids) abuser?. You have a choice here re this man, they do not.

What do you want to teach them about relationships and what are they learning here from both of you?. We tend to learn about relationships from our parents after all.

Its miserable for you and doubly so for them, this from their dad cannot become the cornerstone of their childhoods. Its not their fault nor yours their dad has decided to embark on his own private based war against you.

i lost the plot with my partner yesterday. We’ve had a week off, I’ve been manic busy he’s done pretty much fuck all. Yesterday I wanted to decorate a room. He was due to be out. His plans changed then he was like ok let’s go to lunch. I said no I want to do this. Oh you never want to spend time with me rah rah rah. I went ballistic saying it’s always his wants and needs that need to be met and I’ve had enough. He then said he wanted to be away from me and would go to work alone. (He does a job I can be a passenger) I said fine. He then calls me easily 10+ times, I didn’t answer I’m busy. Anyway comes home 1ish I said how I don’t feel seen, heard, valued or appreciated. He just say ok are you sorry?! No I’m fucking not. I was so angry asked him to sleep in the other room so I could calm down and sleep, he refused. I proceeded to tell him how selfish he is and how he only thinks of himself. He then put the bedroom light on saying no one would sleep, pulled the duvet off me, threw my pillows on the floor. I just sat there with a pillow covering me whilst he was pushing me with his foot. I started to cry as I thought fuck me what am I doing. He said it’s crocodile tears and to stop because my tears are pointless and don’t work on him. I feel trapped due to financial situation but I know this relationship has an end date. I’m just trying to get my ducks in a row to do it. Hard living this life.