My poor auntie is on end of life care. It’s all come as such a shock, this time last week she was fine. Then obviously she got poorly. My mum is absolutely devastated which is understandable and I literally want nothing more to be there for her. This is what my post is about. My ‘darling’ partner is the most unsupportive c*nt I’ve ever come across in my whole life. He is literally acting so so cold against me as I’m nothing to him. Not even an are you ok or give me a cuddle I’m here for you etc nothing. I was upset yesterday as I’m obviously devastated about my auntie and hearing my mum sob on the phone is literally heartbreaking . He took one look at me and said what the fuck is up with you ? and I was like you know what and he replied with what still? So now I’m questioning my emotions that I’m not allowed to be grieving like I can’t be. I also live 40-60ish miles away from my mum and I don’t drive so unless he drives us up there I can’t go up there (I live rural so the nearest train station is 1.5 bus journey away and with 3 kids in tow one of which is a newborn wouldn’t be practical along with a few days worth of stuff) he had a swift personality transplant yesterday and said we would go up tomorrow (now today) for one night. I told my mum and she literally cried and said thank you, j have got another sister but she isn’t coping mentally with the whole thing. He’s woke up in the night and randomly said we ain’t going today, I was already up with the baby so I said why and he said dunno we ain’t so you can tell your mum we’re not going. He then fucked off jn the spare room leaving me with the baby and literally in a state cos the lack of support again.
im sorry this is so long but honestly im so broken, the man who is meant to love me and be my rock, isn’t. If im honest this whole thing feels like a massive inconvenience for him. I’ve never felt like hes not supported me as much as he is now and i dont know what his fucking problem is. While we don’t go today if I walk around upset he eill be like cheer up etc. and then on the funeral day he will expect to come and show me support and be false. My mind is a bit clouded at the moment I don’t know what I want from this post I guess just support as he’s not giving me none at all 😞😞😞 sorry it’s so long x
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FunnyZebra · 29/03/2024 02:59
Manyandyoucanwalkover · 29/03/2024 03:10
I’m very sorry to hear about your poor auntie and your mum. Of course you are upset and looking for support from your partner. At least you know now what he’s really like, so you can plan your life without him. 💐
yvonneb13 · 29/03/2024 03:16
So sorry about your auntie OP your partner is being a dick. Has always been like this? Or is this a new side sounds like an attention thing not on him so doesn't give a shit I had an ex like that. Really hope you're okay and I agree get big girl pants and LTB♥️♥️
polkadot24 · 29/03/2024 05:33
How old are your children? I think you need some space. Pack the kids up and go for a break at your mums without him. He needs a serious think.
frozendaisy · 29/03/2024 03:19
Get a taxi to the train station with new born
He can parent his other kids whilst you are away.
Go OP with a bag and the baby. Whilst he is clearly an arse if you don't make a stand now and show him you are going with or without his help he will continue to think he is king of the world.
And I bet if he thinks he will have to parent and look after the house solo for a few days the drive won't seem so bad. Although at this point I would be tempted to still just go with baby. End of life is no place for young kids. They should stay at home with their dad.
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