So I’m 42 and I’ve known this guy who’s 35 for about a year. We met at a party and chatted and swapped numbers. We dated and then he kinda freaked out and disappeared. A year later he rings me and asks to meet me for a drink to say sorry. I go on the drink and we get on and he really did apologise for disappearing etc. We started hanging out a bit and I was fine keeping it casual because of the age difference and because he freaked out once before, so could easily do it again. He’s started messaging and calling all the time and buying me little gifts etc He told me he feels a connection and he doesn’t get that often. Again I was keeping it casual in my head. We do sleep together and it’s great but I find it a bit odd the fact that he’s calling so much and buying me things. He is very grown up for his age and I’m sick of meeting Aholes on apps or in the gym so the company and attention is nice. Can this turn into something or am I crazy?
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3sausagedogs · 29/03/2024 00:39
FridaySpark · 29/03/2024 03:20
Grown up for his age. 🤣 Sorry but that’s funny.
42 and 35, no issue at all in terms of ages, other than if he wants kids. He could waste your time for a while, if you don’t want kids or possibly too old to have them by then and then he fucks off with someone younger. That happened to a woman I know. If that’s not a factor, then no issue at all.
Rania78 · 29/03/2024 04:50
She can always use donor eggs. Not that big issue
FridaySpark · 29/03/2024 03:20
Grown up for his age. 🤣 Sorry but that’s funny.
42 and 35, no issue at all in terms of ages, other than if he wants kids. He could waste your time for a while, if you don’t want kids or possibly too old to have them by then and then he fucks off with someone younger. That happened to a woman I know. If that’s not a factor, then no issue at all.
Rania78 · 29/03/2024 04:50
She can always use donor eggs. Not that big issue
FridaySpark · 29/03/2024 03:20
Grown up for his age. 🤣 Sorry but that’s funny.
42 and 35, no issue at all in terms of ages, other than if he wants kids. He could waste your time for a while, if you don’t want kids or possibly too old to have them by then and then he fucks off with someone younger. That happened to a woman I know. If that’s not a factor, then no issue at all.
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Catandsquirrel · 29/03/2024 09:58
I’ve met a few guys who are 35 with no kids and they are very immature still. They go out drinking all the time, still live at home, have never had a proper relationship etc. All they talk about it MILFS etc and they still act like they are 20
Well, no, the above types are very immature for 35.
Kids, mortgage or not, it is not typical for a healthy 35 year old man to be unable to hold a reciprocal social conversation or make his own living. These things are not signs of noteworthy maturity at 35. They are signs of basic adult functioning.
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