Giving an explanation for ending things or not?

[Holibobby]

I have wrote countless threads on here now about this guy so ready for some backlash 🙈
so was seeing someone for coming upto 3 months lots of red flags. Worst was over the weekend when we invited me back to his place for sex and then said I had to leave as he was in work early. Today we were meant to meet but conveniently he had a family emergency.

So I messaged tonight and said ‘this isn’t working for me anymore’ he replied saying family come first and he is sorry he’s been so busy and he gets it as it’s unfair on me - bit of a cop out IMO.

Anyway I’m torn between do I just leave it now or do I message him and say ‘it was never about the busy-ness as I am really busy myself it was about the lack of respect, the demanding sex and x,y,z.

part of me wants to leave it but then another part of me wants to let him know you can’t treat someone shitty and then think that they are leaving because your busy.

Leave it

Leave it. These men know what they’ve done and they don’t care.

And please listen to your gut better going forward. You’ve questioned this guy from the start and he’s shown more red flags than a Moscow May Day parade. Your instincts are telling you something - don’t ignore them.

Yes, leave it. Once you start explaining, it looks like you're asking for change - prioritise our relationship and we're back on. Then you might get changes that last for a short while, something goes wrong again and you're back to ending it.

It's usually more constructive to accept that you have different relationship styles and/or are simply incompatible. Wish I'd figured this out sooner!

Leave it.

"Nothing to do with you being busy, we are just completely incompatible".

Leave it

I think the biggest thing for me is I’ve never spoken up or asserted what I want, and by not saying anything I feel it’s giving him the power again, but don’t think it’s going to achieve anything

The most powerful move you can make right now is not to respond to him.

You're done. You're over it. He doesn't even have enough power over you to get you to respond to a text message. You've taken your power back.

If you think you won't be able to resist, then block his number.

He doesn’t care. The only reason you want to text him is because you want attention from him. Stop wasting your precious time and energy on this low grade man.

I would say it, just because I would be so pissed of by being treated like that and then block him

Agree with this. OP you’ve already given so much time and energy to this low bar low effort loser.

You've told him you’re done - block him and let it go